Myths & Truths about men - Rape Board

jennysub · 09-08-2007, 06:18 PM

Myth
Men like women who are thier equal

Truth
Men like to be in control and be the dominate one in a relationship.

Myth
Men like strong women

Truth
Men like women who do as their told, can cook and clean and who love and respect their boyfriend/husbdand and don't nag.

"Treat a man like a King and get treated like a Queen" - my mom

RapeU · 09-08-2007, 09:23 PM

ah, a good thread, should be intersting to see.

As for me, I wouldn't mind a woman controlling me every once in a while. That would bring excitement in the relationship.

Ntense · 09-09-2007, 12:15 AM

I take it Jenny hasn't hit the *extreme* dating boards yet. There's as many subs wanting to lick her boots as there are Doms and wannabes wanting her to play doormat. Seems to be pretty much an even three-way split for the guys, at least in my age range. The women are heavily tilted to the sub or slave end. Sigh. (next, next, next, next Hmmm... nope, non-smoker, next...)

Hun, some of us are looking for both of your myths. 70% of the 'switches' I've found are subs in disguise. I know a handful of women that are willing to stand up on their hind legs and tell me I'm full of shit, but most of 'em would probably qualify as Dommes if they were in the scene. It's a pain finding a lady that WANTS to be equal.

But you're probably right about the younger age groups. I suspect mostly it's just that they haven't figured out who they are yet.

We're not all looking for a 50s household.

And yep, who *doesn't* like to bottom occasionally?

It's a great ride!

Becka · 09-09-2007, 09:40 AM

I think I would have to agree with Ntense on this one.

It just depends on the guy in question. I have met some who wanted to control everything and others who couldn't be bothered to control anything. The best relationships I have see have involved confident men who are not threatened by a strong or intelligent or successful woman and are just happy to be in the relationship with the person not the stereotype.

B.

jennysub · 09-09-2007, 10:15 AM

I grew up in a traditional household where women are meant to listen and obey the man of the house. So for me being submissive is just a natural way of life.

ego · 09-10-2007, 03:09 AM

I just love it when (as a man) i become the subject of researches!!!

gaggirl · 09-10-2007, 03:17 AM

When it comes to this topic, the Mythic tarot card "The Chariot" exemplifies it for this little black duck.

Janav · 09-10-2007, 03:35 AM

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Myth
Men like women who are thier equal

Truth
Men like to be in control and be the dominate one in a relationship.

Myth
Men like strong women

Truth
Men like women who do as their told, can cook and clean and who love and respect their boyfriend/husbdand and don't nag.

"Treat a man like a King and get treated like a Queen" - my mom

For years in my teens, i actually believed that what i wanted was a strong, independent woman who would work side by side with me in the relationship. Then i felt badly for starting to want something else when i became 19-20. Now i know i want a submissive homemaker. I don't want her to be a retard, i want her to have a proper education and intelligence. I want her to have her own mind as well as opinions, and not be afraid to discuss them.

But, i want her to know her place in the relationship. Classical gender-type roles. THe female works at home, serving the male which in turn takes care of the female and (possible) offspring. I cannot deal with a dominant female, girl or woman anymore. i am in control, and if the woman cannot deal or has doubts about that, i will show it to her physically

.

As for your list, it's true with me.

However, i was raised the opposite. My mother is a very strong, independant woman, and my father is a very manly-man, just like i strive to be. I was brought up to see women and men as equals in relationships, in all things. Took me a while to get over that

. Although i still love and respect my mom very much, of course ^^. My mom is a great, openminded person who gave me a large jar of condoms when i was 12 years old. And, during last summer (i'm 22 now) we spent a few hours in town as she wanted to know what kind of girls i "had the hots for".

jennysub · 09-10-2007, 07:34 AM

"i want her to know her place in the relationship. Classical gender-type roles. THe female works at home, serving the male which in turn takes care of the female and (possible) offspring. I cannot deal with a dominant female, girl or woman anymore. i am in control, and if the woman cannot deal or has doubts about that, i will show it to her physically ."

Janay what you describe is to me the way nature intended it to be. It is a loving, honour and duty to serve your husband/boyfriend so he can live a good life. "Treat a good man like a King and get treated like a queen" - my mom

Janav · 09-10-2007, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by jennysub

"i want her to know her place in the relationship. Classical gender-type roles. THe female works at home, serving the male which in turn takes care of the female and (possible) offspring. I cannot deal with a dominant female, girl or woman anymore. i am in control, and if the woman cannot deal or has doubts about that, i will show it to her physically ."

Janay what you describe is to me the way nature intended it to be. It is a loving, honour and duty to serve your husband/boyfriend so he can live a good life. "Treat a good man like a King and get treated like a queen" - my mom

Girls are ashamed to admit having that kind of mentality here. It's unfeminine, it's weak and it's pathetic (According to them). Here, it's important for females to be strong, independent and working. The mentality you have, i have noticed in girls coming from Asian or eastern-european countries, which is why i'll probably end up taking a life-partner/wife from there.

Still, refreshing to see you're not ashamed of what you want. Neither am i

. However, if i end up having kids (a daughter), i won't actually influence her to be or to think like that. I would want her to find out what she wants herself

. I think freedom of choice is as important as an open mind.

tnc4fun · 09-10-2007, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by jennysub

"Treat a good man like a King and get treated like a queen" - my mom

Hopefully that Queen isn't Anne Boleyn

jennysub · 09-10-2007, 08:21 PM

Yeah it is good to allow girls to explore there world well rooting them in tradition. I truely believe that there is no greater job then being a wife and mother. I would be totally honoured to love and respect a good man.

MADDOGMCMANAMAN · 09-16-2007, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by jennysub

Myth
Men like women who are thier equal

Truth
Men like to be in control and be the dominate one in a relationship.

Myth
Men like strong women

Truth
Men like women who do as their told, can cook and clean and who love and respect their boyfriend/husbdand and don't nag.

"Treat a man like a King and get treated like a Queen" - my mom

YOUR MOTHER IS VERY WISE !!!!!

and i agree with ur points 100% (especially the nagging point !!

)

09-16-2007, 10:31 PM

I have mixed feelings about this. Yes as a guy, I want my wife to be obedient and do as she’s told but, I think that’s more of a jealousy thing. Afraid she might run off with someone else. I think it makes for a boring relation ship. I like when she stands her ground (makes for good sex sometimes when we disagree about stuff). I think if a women treats a guy like a king he’ll eventually see her as a servant and not his wife.
A strong women – well not one that can kick my ass, but knows what she wants.
And as far as a equal – well we’re men it’s not our fault blame our creator we want to be the dominate one, its part of nature.

My two cents

jennysub · 09-17-2007, 08:37 AM

I think standing your ground pushes men away because you are stubborn, if you discuss things and come to an agreement then things work well but the man should always have the final say.

SecretObsession · 09-17-2007, 04:05 PM

I don't believe that there are "MYTHS and TRUTHS" about men OR women. It seems that those are blanket statements that do not alllow for individuality. What about the men who enjoy being dominated? Or men who want to be dominate in the bedroom but, outside of sex, actually want a life "companion", rather than a pet that they have to care for?

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Originally Posted by jennysub

I think standing your ground pushes men away because you are stubborn, if you discuss things and come to an agreement then things work well but the man should always have the final say.

I think "standing your ground" for me is better described as having my own opinions and needs. To put someone else's wants above my own simply because he has a dick, is honestly quite pathetic to me. It says "I am not worthy of you... You are better than me, I am not good enough... I do not deserve to be happy." Please don't take this as if I'm "bashing" you.I also grew up in a household where my mother catered to my father, almost like a servant, and she was happy to do it. But to me it almost seems like an issue of LOW SELF ESTEEM, and the men that I encounter are attracted to sexy CONFIDENT women. I just don't see how you can keep a relationship exciting and fullfilling if there is ONE person who has no RESPECT for the other's needs.
For me and hubby, it is a balance, GIVE and TAKE, your turn, my turn. I believe most men would become bored rather quickly with a truly subserviant woman, and before you know it, they're out there cruising for those sexy, confident, more challenging women. But, if I understand your position, that would be acceptable to you, as long as he was happy???

I hope I don't seem too judgemental, I'm just putting in my two cents. To each, his own...

ego · 09-17-2007, 04:45 PM

Do you mean we are equal??? But i HAVE a dick!!! So, put your burga on and listen:

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I don't believe

Enough said. You are a woman and that means you dont have the right to believe anything unless your man says so. Just obey.

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What about the men who enjoy being dominated?

Crusifixion. After castration.

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Or men who want to be dominate in the bedroom but, outside of sex, actually want a life "companion", rather than a pet that they have to care for?

Crusifixion.

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To put someone else's wants above my own simply because he has a dick, is honestly quite pathetic to me.

Simply???? Simply????

I think you have to be crucified also. No, wait. BURNED ALIVE!

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It says "I am not worthy of you

You are not.

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You are better than me

I am.

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I also grew up in a household where my mother catered to my father, almost like a servant,

Why almost? It was fathers fault, or mothers? I guess mothers.

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I just don't see how you can keep a relationship exciting and fullfilling if there is ONE person who has no RESPECT for the other's needs.

Simply, they are both in love with HIM.
Needs??? Women have no needs, expect the one of taking orders.
And dont use capital letters again, you are not allowed.

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GIVE and TAKE, your turn, my turn.

Now you speak correctly. Woman's turn to give, then man's turn to take.

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I believe most men would become bored rather quickly with a truly subserviant woman

Off course, you are all useless, worst than objects.

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Originally Posted by SecretObsession

But, if I understand your position, that would be acceptable to you, as long as he was happy???

Off course. You dubt it?

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Originally Posted by SecretObsession

I'm just putting in my two cents. To each, his own...

You are thinking to much for a woman. And you speak to much. You are lucky i dont want to waste good meat, you will only be slashed 200 times and your tongue will be cuted.

Seriously now, Jenny would be correct 400 years ago. But not now. Today, relationships are based on mutual needs covering, and that is what makes it so difficult. You cant speak about men and women, each man (or woman) is different than the others, needs are different, people are different.

And i like strong women. They are more challenging, more interesting and they can drive (instead of crying) when i am drunk to death.

And they make a better "noise" when i brake them!

Edit: Thats a lovely sig Secry!

SecretObsession · 09-17-2007, 07:02 PM

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Edit: Thats a lovely sig Secry!

hehehe... ty ego.
My master allowed me to use it

jennysub · 09-17-2007, 08:15 PM

I am very traditonal I don't expect others to live the way that I do. It is right for me. To be a wife and mother is so natural to me.

MADDOGMCMANAMAN · 09-17-2007, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by SecretObsession

I don't believe that there are "MYTHS and TRUTHS" about men OR women. It seems that those are blanket statements that do not alllow for individuality. What about the men who enjoy being dominated? Or men who want to be dominate in the bedroom but, outside of sex, actually want a life "companion", rather than a pet that they have to care for?

I think "standing your ground" for me is better described as having my own opinions and needs. To put someone else's wants above my own simply because he has a dick, is honestly quite pathetic to me. It says "I am not worthy of you... You are better than me, I am not good enough... I do not deserve to be happy." Please don't take this as if I'm "bashing" you.I also grew up in a household where my mother catered to my father, almost like a servant, and she was happy to do it. But to me it almost seems like an issue of LOW SELF ESTEEM, and the men that I encounter are attracted to sexy CONFIDENT women. I just don't see how you can keep a relationship exciting and fullfilling if there is ONE person who has no RESPECT for the other's needs.
For me and hubby, it is a balance, GIVE and TAKE, your turn, my turn. I believe most men would become bored rather quickly with a truly subserviant woman, and before you know it, they're out there cruising for those sexy, confident, more challenging women. But, if I understand your position, that would be acceptable to you, as long as he was happy???

I hope I don't seem too judgemental, I'm just putting in my two cents. To each, his own...

wow i read that but actually thought about your tits !!!!!!

09-08-2007, 06:18 PM	#1
jennysub Privileged Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 192 Reputation: 63	Myths & Truths about men Myth Men like women who are thier equal Truth Men like to be in control and be the dominate one in a relationship. Myth Men like strong women Truth Men like women who do as their told, can cook and clean and who love and respect their boyfriend/husbdand and don't nag. "Treat a man like a King and get treated like a Queen" - my mom

09-08-2007, 09:23 PM	#2
RapeU Yes = No. No = Yes Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 2,412 Reputation: 33359	ah, a good thread, should be intersting to see. As for me, I wouldn't mind a woman controlling me every once in a while. That would bring excitement in the relationship. __________________ Stories I have written. The Red Rose Rapist short stories Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue, Sugar Is Sweet, The Rapist Is You!? The Kidnapping Chronicles The Hunter, Huntress, LK, The Masked Marauder, Melinda's Tale, and The Masked Marauder II - Allen's Revenge Other Stories At My Cousin's Wedding

09-09-2007, 12:15 AM	#3
Ntense Privileged Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Texass Posts: 688 Reputation: 541	I take it Jenny hasn't hit the extreme dating boards yet. There's as many subs wanting to lick her boots as there are Doms and wannabes wanting her to play doormat. Seems to be pretty much an even three-way split for the guys, at least in my age range. The women are heavily tilted to the sub or slave end. Sigh. (next, next, next, next Hmmm... nope, non-smoker, next...) Hun, some of us are looking for both of your myths. 70% of the 'switches' I've found are subs in disguise. I know a handful of women that are willing to stand up on their hind legs and tell me I'm full of shit, but most of 'em would probably qualify as Dommes if they were in the scene. It's a pain finding a lady that WANTS to be equal. But you're probably right about the younger age groups. I suspect mostly it's just that they haven't figured out who they are yet. We're not all looking for a 50s household. And yep, who doesn't like to bottom occasionally? It's a great ride! __________________ Character is what you are in the dark... John Whorfin

09-09-2007, 09:40 AM	#4
Becka Immodest Mod Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,407 Reputation: 36018	I think I would have to agree with Ntense on this one. It just depends on the guy in question. I have met some who wanted to control everything and others who couldn't be bothered to control anything. The best relationships I have see have involved confident men who are not threatened by a strong or intelligent or successful woman and are just happy to be in the relationship with the person not the stereotype. B. __________________ Vital Board Info Hey, where am I going? And why am I in this hand basket? Darling, a true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best. At other times you can be as modest and dignified as your persona requires.

09-10-2007, 03:09 AM	#6
ego the obscure Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,457 Reputation: 14892	I just love it when (as a man) i become the subject of researches!!! __________________ ..lure them all into the abyss!

09-09-2007, 10:15 AM	#5
jennysub Privileged Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 192 Reputation: 63	I grew up in a traditional household where women are meant to listen and obey the man of the house. So for me being submissive is just a natural way of life.

09-10-2007, 03:17 AM	#7
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	When it comes to this topic, the Mythic tarot card "The Chariot" exemplifies it for this little black duck.

09-10-2007, 07:34 AM	#9
jennysub Privileged Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 192 Reputation: 63	"i want her to know her place in the relationship. Classical gender-type roles. THe female works at home, serving the male which in turn takes care of the female and (possible) offspring. I cannot deal with a dominant female, girl or woman anymore. i am in control, and if the woman cannot deal or has doubts about that, i will show it to her physically ." Janay what you describe is to me the way nature intended it to be. It is a loving, honour and duty to serve your husband/boyfriend so he can live a good life. "Treat a good man like a King and get treated like a queen" - my mom __________________ jennybound@yahoo.ca

09-10-2007, 08:21 PM	#12
jennysub Privileged Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 192 Reputation: 63	Yeah it is good to allow girls to explore there world well rooting them in tradition. I truely believe that there is no greater job then being a wife and mother. I would be totally honoured to love and respect a good man. __________________ jennybound@yahoo.ca

09-16-2007, 10:31 PM	#14
doggy styles Guest Posts: n/a	I have mixed feelings about this. Yes as a guy, I want my wife to be obedient and do as she’s told but, I think that’s more of a jealousy thing. Afraid she might run off with someone else. I think it makes for a boring relation ship. I like when she stands her ground (makes for good sex sometimes when we disagree about stuff). I think if a women treats a guy like a king he’ll eventually see her as a servant and not his wife. A strong women – well not one that can kick my ass, but knows what she wants. And as far as a equal – well we’re men it’s not our fault blame our creator we want to be the dominate one, its part of nature. My two cents

09-17-2007, 08:37 AM	#15
jennysub Privileged Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 192 Reputation: 63	I think standing your ground pushes men away because you are stubborn, if you discuss things and come to an agreement then things work well but the man should always have the final say. __________________ jennybound@yahoo.ca

09-17-2007, 08:15 PM	#19
jennysub Privileged Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 192 Reputation: 63	I am very traditonal I don't expect others to live the way that I do. It is right for me. To be a wife and mother is so natural to me. __________________ jennybound@yahoo.ca