Ex Girlfriend Rape - Rape Board

gss · 12-28-2008, 02:14 AM

Hey, I was hoping to find some guys who wanted to chat about my ex gf. We split up approx 18 months ago now as she had sexuality issues. We split badly and I came to hate what she did to me.

Well approx 4 weeks ago she was raped for real and she came to me to tell me about it.

I was wondering if any guys wanted to chat about it with me. I really want to but not in such an open forum

message me please if you do

gss

Door'sunlocked_c'monin · 12-28-2008, 02:17 AM

You mean you want to talk to someone in private about how, as a guy, to handle the topic with your ex to be.... the most sentivite possible? How to handle the situation? What kinds of things to ay to comfort her?

I am sorry for her experience..

theDarkOne · 12-28-2008, 02:40 AM

Your message is vague.It seems to be one of two things.

1.Your looking to help someone you care about deep down but hurt you.So whats the best thing to do for her well being.

Or

2.You want to share the details of the rape for your own gratification.

As for #1 you should be there for her.Put aside your anger.Try to get her to get professional help...Be a man,Be there for her..

If it's #2 then your a scum bag and she has very bad luck for ever meeting someone like you.

I hope it's #1..

gss · 12-28-2008, 03:01 AM

it is number 1 of course

she actually rang me whilst it was happening but i couldnt do anything about it as i didnt know where she was.

feel distraught and useless

theDarkOne · 12-28-2008, 03:20 AM

Then don't talk to guys here man.Call a rape counseling hotline or something similar.Get a trained professionals help.Not that there are not good guys on this board but you need to talk to someone who can give you the best advise possible.

And i wish you the best..

doggystylethatgirl · 12-28-2008, 03:23 AM

For something serious the only place in rapeboard, would be here "the real rape thread" http://www.rapeboard.com/showthread.php?t=2798&page=11

p.s. NO BULLSHIT ALLOWED IN THAT THREAD - NO EXCITED "WANTING TO GET OFF" COMMENTS IN THAT THREAD EITHER.

whyaskwhy · 12-28-2008, 03:50 AM

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Originally Posted by theDarkOne

Then don't talk to guys here man.Call a rape counseling hotline or something similar.Get a trained professionals help.Not that there are not good guys on this board but you need to talk to someone who can give you the best advise possible.

And i wish you the best..

Agreed.Get counseling for yourself and for her as well and no matter the angry breakup,be there for her through this.She obviously needs you right now.Hope things get easier soon...

Sternenlied · 12-28-2008, 06:15 AM

So ... let me get this right:

1) You split up a year and a half ago.
2) You split up real bad.
3) About 4 weeks ago - still about a year and a half later - she calls you during her rape?

And now you want to talk to men about what to do?

Pardon me for being somewhat sceptical about this story. Sounds like rubbish to me.

Door'sunlocked_c'monin · 12-28-2008, 11:04 AM

I'm in agreeance with all the above. You don't go to a raep fantasy site to talk about how to help a girl who was actually raped..

I'm just sayin..

theDarkOne · 12-28-2008, 02:07 PM

I totally agree with everything you all are saying(you can see that in my first post)..I was just trying not to be a Dick just in case it was real.

ChiTownHoney · 12-28-2008, 02:23 PM

Who care what happened to her? She split up with you, you hate her. Go your seperate ways. Her issues are not your problem anymore. She has to go cry to someone else. Why should you be there for her?

Thats my advice. Personally I think you want to talk about how cool it is that she was raped. Is that it? How can she call you while it was happening? This is such bullshit, its almost comical.

Look. If you want to roleplay theres a section for that. Dont come here and lie.

Hailo · 12-28-2008, 04:18 PM

I think it's very commendable that you are seeking advise but the above are encouraging you to seek professional advise and that's the best advise anyone on this site could probably give you in this unfortunate matter.

Just wondering what made you decide to ask people here? Was it because you wanted to see if someone here had gone through something similar and they could advise you to what they did?

All the best in your endevours.

TZOFOSHO · 12-31-2008, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTownHoney

Who care what happened to her? She split up with you, you hate her. Go your seperate ways. Her issues are not your problem anymore. She has to go cry to someone else. Why should you be there for her?...

How can she call you while it was happening? This is such bullshit, its almost comical.

Look. If you want to roleplay theres a section for that. Dont come here and lie.

have to just chime in and totally agree with everyone whos already spoken. Assuming it's true, she dicked you over, it sucks that it happened to her, but it is not your issue to deal with, there's something to be said for being a friend, but not everyone deserves a friend.

And yeah, the call thing is bizarre, unless we're talking about the movie posted here where the guy makes her answer her boyfriends call, i doubt she was being raped and found the time to use up some of her rollover anytime minutes.

pervipete · 12-31-2008, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by TZOFOSHO

have to just chime in and totally agree with everyone whos already spoken. Assuming it's true, she dicked you over, it sucks that it happened to her, but it is not your issue to deal with, there's something to be said for being a friend, but not everyone deserves a friend.

And yeah, the call thing is bizarre, unless we're talking about the movie posted here where the guy makes her answer her boyfriends call, i doubt she was being raped and found the time to use up some of her rollover anytime minutes.

I'm finding this thread a little smelly but here goes anyway.

Assuming that GSS is telling the truth as he sees it, the call thing prompts me to ask one question, which might cause some controversy, but was she actually raped?

Also, again assuming this is not bullshit and the rape was real, GSS ask yourself how do you feel about her, if it is only sympathy, than it might be better to walk away now before she becomes dependant on you.

Of course I don't mean for you to disapear, but explain that you are not able to help her, get her to counselling and then walk.

Easier said than done, I agree, but it might be better for you both in the long run.

Good luck

12-28-2008, 03:23 AM	#6
doggystylethatgirl Banned Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 4,113 Reputation: 27657	For something serious the only place in rapeboard, would be here "the real rape thread" http://www.rapeboard.com/showthread.php?t=2798&page=11 p.s. NO BULLSHIT ALLOWED IN THAT THREAD - NO EXCITED "WANTING TO GET OFF" COMMENTS IN THAT THREAD EITHER. Last edited by doggystylethatgirl; 12-28-2008 at 08:05 AM.

12-28-2008, 06:15 AM	#8
Sternenlied Unknown Entity Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Niflheim Posts: 2,427 Reputation: 77819	So ... let me get this right: 1) You split up a year and a half ago. 2) You split up real bad. 3) About 4 weeks ago - still about a year and a half later - she calls you during her rape? And now you want to talk to men about what to do? Pardon me for being somewhat sceptical about this story. Sounds like rubbish to me. __________________ The Life and Death of Sam Crow - How the Sons of Anarchy lost their way

12-28-2008, 11:04 AM	#9
Door'sunlocked_c'monin Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 905 Reputation: 6346	I'm in agreeance with all the above. You don't go to a raep fantasy site to talk about how to help a girl who was actually raped.. I'm just sayin.. __________________ If men see a push-up bra as false advertising, is asking their wife to get fake boobs breech of contract?

12-28-2008, 02:14 AM	#1
gss Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 2 Reputation: 10	Ex Girlfriend Rape Hey, I was hoping to find some guys who wanted to chat about my ex gf. We split up approx 18 months ago now as she had sexuality issues. We split badly and I came to hate what she did to me. Well approx 4 weeks ago she was raped for real and she came to me to tell me about it. I was wondering if any guys wanted to chat about it with me. I really want to but not in such an open forum message me please if you do gss

12-28-2008, 02:17 AM	#2
Door'sunlocked_c'monin Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 905 Reputation: 6346	You mean you want to talk to someone in private about how, as a guy, to handle the topic with your ex to be.... the most sentivite possible? How to handle the situation? What kinds of things to ay to comfort her? I am sorry for her experience.. __________________ If men see a push-up bra as false advertising, is asking their wife to get fake boobs breech of contract?

12-28-2008, 02:40 AM	#3
theDarkOne Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Never gonna give you up,Never gonna let you down,Never gonna run around and desert you. Posts: 1,693 Reputation: 57368	Your message is vague.It seems to be one of two things. 1.Your looking to help someone you care about deep down but hurt you.So whats the best thing to do for her well being. Or 2.You want to share the details of the rape for your own gratification. As for #1 you should be there for her.Put aside your anger.Try to get her to get professional help...Be a man,Be there for her.. If it's #2 then your a scum bag and she has very bad luck for ever meeting someone like you. I hope it's #1..

12-28-2008, 03:01 AM	#4
gss Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 2 Reputation: 10	it is number 1 of course she actually rang me whilst it was happening but i couldnt do anything about it as i didnt know where she was. feel distraught and useless

12-28-2008, 03:20 AM	#5
theDarkOne Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Never gonna give you up,Never gonna let you down,Never gonna run around and desert you. Posts: 1,693 Reputation: 57368	Then don't talk to guys here man.Call a rape counseling hotline or something similar.Get a trained professionals help.Not that there are not good guys on this board but you need to talk to someone who can give you the best advise possible. And i wish you the best..

12-28-2008, 02:07 PM	#10
theDarkOne Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Never gonna give you up,Never gonna let you down,Never gonna run around and desert you. Posts: 1,693 Reputation: 57368	I totally agree with everything you all are saying(you can see that in my first post)..I was just trying not to be a Dick just in case it was real.

12-28-2008, 02:23 PM	#11
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	Who care what happened to her? She split up with you, you hate her. Go your seperate ways. Her issues are not your problem anymore. She has to go cry to someone else. Why should you be there for her? Thats my advice. Personally I think you want to talk about how cool it is that she was raped. Is that it? How can she call you while it was happening? This is such bullshit, its almost comical. Look. If you want to roleplay theres a section for that. Dont come here and lie.

12-28-2008, 04:18 PM	#12
Hailo Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: London baby! Posts: 1,662 Reputation: 34134	I think it's very commendable that you are seeking advise but the above are encouraging you to seek professional advise and that's the best advise anyone on this site could probably give you in this unfortunate matter. Just wondering what made you decide to ask people here? Was it because you wanted to see if someone here had gone through something similar and they could advise you to what they did? All the best in your endevours.