Damaged goods - Rape Board

menace · 02-22-2009, 01:11 PM

No, I'm not being chauvinistic. OK, maybe a little.

Suppose that after you've been in a relationship for a while, and you're at the past sharing point. Your girlfriend however has a very traumatic expirience to disclose: she had been raped.

How do you react? And does she become more attractive to you?

Brutal Cop · 02-22-2009, 01:17 PM

Are you meaning during our relationship or before, if so how long before, what type of rape, who by, how has she appeared to have coped with it? So many variables you can't really begin to understand or believe how you would react, other than I would feel very angry inside at the rapist

Hailo · 02-22-2009, 01:19 PM

What would you do menace?

pervipete · 02-22-2009, 01:23 PM

Try to support her in anyway that I can

TwistedMaster · 02-22-2009, 01:38 PM

More attractive? No.. I can't imagine that would happen. I would feel very concerned, and do whatever is in my power to help them...

Sierra · 02-22-2009, 01:54 PM

The fact that you titled this "damaged goods" bothers me a little.

Why would something that happened against her will put her in this category?

I have encountered this reaction several times, actually. There are guys who cannot deal with the fact that this happened to me and ended the relationship. Why is that? I would love to have some explain this to me.

TwistedMaster · 02-22-2009, 01:57 PM

I'm going to secod that... calling a person "damaged goods" because of something like that is horrible.

sexfiend · 02-22-2009, 02:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by menace

No, I'm not being chauvinistic. OK, maybe a little.

Suppose that after you've been in a relationship for a while, and you're at the past sharing point. Your girlfriend however has a very traumatic expirience to disclose: she had been raped.

How do you react? And does she become more attractive to you?

Well my 2nd ex was raped not once but twice when she was younger,the first was when she was around 11,buy an adult friend of her family.the 2nd time was when she was 13,she was raped by both of her brothers,and what made matters worst was no one believed ether of her storys.She told me this about a year after we started dating,but i never thought of her as damaged goods.

Hailo · 02-22-2009, 03:05 PM

Menace, honestly i am really curious as to what you would do?

Tim Woodman · 02-22-2009, 03:23 PM

Okay, it's a little sick and twisted I admit, but when a lover told me she had been raped, and described the attack to me, deep in my heart, it turned me on. That she survived, and still enjoys rape fantasy, fills me with deep respect (and some more lust). Sure, if I ever found the guy, I'd cut off his toes and feed them to him, then his fingers, then his nuts, but the story still turned me on.

Hailo · 02-22-2009, 03:27 PM

I honestly would be repulsed if someone found what happened to me a turn on. It wasn't nice and i fucking hated every second of it. If someone i trusted then decided (after i confided what had happened to me) i was damaged goods, i would have no respect for that person and just leave him.

FuckingRotter · 02-22-2009, 03:56 PM

I'm not good at empathy or sympathy. In the past such revelations haven't really touched me, it's just another snippet of information to store away about the person, along with her favourite colour and her birthday.

The question reminds me about one new years eve when the friend of a good friend told me hecwas gay. I just shrugged and said "So what?". I just don't understand why such a big issue was made of it, but my friend really laid into me for my reaction. That puzzled me.

What is important to me is what the person is here and now, not what happened to make that person. That is simply because people cope differently with traumatic events. I'm aware of little miss Rotters past for example, but she doesn't constantly dwell on it, and it doesn't impact on our relationship.

Sierra · 02-22-2009, 04:09 PM

You're a wise man, Rotter.

A person is the sum of their experiences. If you liked her before you knew about it, why would you look at her differently?

FuckingRotter · 02-22-2009, 04:14 PM

Exactly. And the same with the gay friend. He was ok before I knew he was gay, what was I supposed to think or say?

menace · 02-22-2009, 04:25 PM

The title is here to catch people's attention, nothing else. I do not think rape victims are damaged.

And as for me... Well, call me too sick to leave quarantine, I would find it a slight turn on. But not in every case!. If this was something that was clearly still causing her trauma and talking about it was painful, I would not find that hot. I'd feel too guilty.

If she was able to get over it and move on, then I would be turned on by the fact.

TwistedMaster · 02-22-2009, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by FuckingRotter

I'm not good at empathy or sympathy. In the past such revelations haven't really touched me, it's just another snippet of information to store away about the person, along with her favourite colour and her birthday.

That sucks

In the past I've been much the same... though lately it seems to be changing quite a bit

FuckingRotter · 02-22-2009, 04:36 PM

As it happens Mr Twister, I consider it a plus, I'm not weighed down by other peoples emotional traumas.

Reimagined · 02-22-2009, 06:17 PM

The title of this thread leaves a bitter taste in the mouth.

RLA68 · 02-22-2009, 06:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by menace

No, I'm not being chauvinistic. OK, maybe a little.

Suppose that after you've been in a relationship for a while, and you're at the past sharing point. Your girlfriend however has a very traumatic expirience to disclose: she had been raped.

How do you react? And does she become more attractive to you?

Menace I usually like your posts and thought provoking threads but this is not cool. The question is interesting but I feel the thread title is insulting to the ladies.

Just my $.02.

RavishAGirl · 02-22-2009, 10:55 PM

I don't like the title of this thread much, either. There are people very close to me who have been raped, and I do not find that arousing. I find it angering. It makes me want to find the bastards who did it and beat them into a pulp.

//Ravish

02-22-2009, 01:11 PM	#1
menace Privileged Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Who knows? Posts: 2,436 Reputation: 26964	Damaged goods No, I'm not being chauvinistic. OK, maybe a little. Suppose that after you've been in a relationship for a while, and you're at the past sharing point. Your girlfriend however has a very traumatic expirience to disclose: she had been raped. How do you react? And does she become more attractive to you? __________________ Try and stop me

02-22-2009, 01:19 PM	#3
Hailo Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: London baby! Posts: 1,662 Reputation: 34134	What would you do menace? __________________ It's finally....very very slowly...getting back to normal

02-22-2009, 01:23 PM	#4
pervipete Watching from the shadows Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: The Shadowlands... Posts: 5,170 Reputation: 118528	Try to support her in anyway that I can __________________ Tonight love, we'll do a rape roleplay No!! That's the spirit... Spam Reporting Thread The Hazelton Chronicles Blackmailing the MILF's Chapter One The Rape Board Chronicles - LilLinzi in the Alley Consquences

02-22-2009, 01:38 PM	#5
TwistedMaster Privileged Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 955 Reputation: 4707	More attractive? No.. I can't imagine that would happen. I would feel very concerned, and do whatever is in my power to help them... __________________ You're a gift to me, and I always play with my presents...

02-22-2009, 01:54 PM	#6
Sierra Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,625 Reputation: 129196	The fact that you titled this "damaged goods" bothers me a little. Why would something that happened against her will put her in this category? I have encountered this reaction several times, actually. There are guys who cannot deal with the fact that this happened to me and ended the relationship. Why is that? I would love to have some explain this to me. __________________ Although the most incisive judges of the witches and even the witches themselves were convinced of the guilt of witchcraft, this guilt nevertheless did not exist. Thus it is with all guilt.

02-22-2009, 01:17 PM	#2
Brutal Cop Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 181 Reputation: 918	Are you meaning during our relationship or before, if so how long before, what type of rape, who by, how has she appeared to have coped with it? So many variables you can't really begin to understand or believe how you would react, other than I would feel very angry inside at the rapist

02-22-2009, 01:57 PM	#7
TwistedMaster Privileged Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 955 Reputation: 4707	I'm going to secod that... calling a person "damaged goods" because of something like that is horrible. __________________ You're a gift to me, and I always play with my presents...

02-22-2009, 03:05 PM	#9
Hailo Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: London baby! Posts: 1,662 Reputation: 34134	Menace, honestly i am really curious as to what you would do? __________________ It's finally....very very slowly...getting back to normal

02-22-2009, 03:23 PM	#10
Tim Woodman Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 105 Reputation: 940	Okay, it's a little sick and twisted I admit, but when a lover told me she had been raped, and described the attack to me, deep in my heart, it turned me on. That she survived, and still enjoys rape fantasy, fills me with deep respect (and some more lust). Sure, if I ever found the guy, I'd cut off his toes and feed them to him, then his fingers, then his nuts, but the story still turned me on. __________________ Tim Woodman, Professional Villain

02-22-2009, 03:27 PM	#11
Hailo Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: London baby! Posts: 1,662 Reputation: 34134	I honestly would be repulsed if someone found what happened to me a turn on. It wasn't nice and i fucking hated every second of it. If someone i trusted then decided (after i confided what had happened to me) i was damaged goods, i would have no respect for that person and just leave him. __________________ It's finally....very very slowly...getting back to normal

02-22-2009, 03:56 PM	#12
FuckingRotter The Fist of Fury. Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Entering the.... Posts: 9,649 Reputation: 118903	I'm not good at empathy or sympathy. In the past such revelations haven't really touched me, it's just another snippet of information to store away about the person, along with her favourite colour and her birthday. The question reminds me about one new years eve when the friend of a good friend told me hecwas gay. I just shrugged and said "So what?". I just don't understand why such a big issue was made of it, but my friend really laid into me for my reaction. That puzzled me. What is important to me is what the person is here and now, not what happened to make that person. That is simply because people cope differently with traumatic events. I'm aware of little miss Rotters past for example, but she doesn't constantly dwell on it, and it doesn't impact on our relationship. __________________ Fist is a four letter word. So is fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, fist fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, and, well you get the fist-fucking picture.... THE WESTCOUNTRY SHALL RISE AGAIN! Yay! It's pink! Don't think.... FEEL! We're Englishmen, and we came here, to rape your women and drink your beer. I went back in time and voted for Hitler. Pouring oil on troubled waters since 2008. Then lighting a fucking match.

02-22-2009, 04:09 PM	#13
Sierra Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,625 Reputation: 129196	You're a wise man, Rotter. A person is the sum of their experiences. If you liked her before you knew about it, why would you look at her differently? __________________ Although the most incisive judges of the witches and even the witches themselves were convinced of the guilt of witchcraft, this guilt nevertheless did not exist. Thus it is with all guilt.

02-22-2009, 04:14 PM	#14
FuckingRotter The Fist of Fury. Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Entering the.... Posts: 9,649 Reputation: 118903	Exactly. And the same with the gay friend. He was ok before I knew he was gay, what was I supposed to think or say? __________________ Fist is a four letter word. So is fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, fist fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, and, well you get the fist-fucking picture.... THE WESTCOUNTRY SHALL RISE AGAIN! Yay! It's pink! Don't think.... FEEL! We're Englishmen, and we came here, to rape your women and drink your beer. I went back in time and voted for Hitler. Pouring oil on troubled waters since 2008. Then lighting a fucking match.

02-22-2009, 04:25 PM	#15
menace Privileged Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Who knows? Posts: 2,436 Reputation: 26964	The title is here to catch people's attention, nothing else. I do not think rape victims are damaged. And as for me... Well, call me too sick to leave quarantine, I would find it a slight turn on. But not in every case!. If this was something that was clearly still causing her trauma and talking about it was painful, I would not find that hot. I'd feel too guilty. If she was able to get over it and move on, then I would be turned on by the fact. __________________ Try and stop me

02-22-2009, 04:36 PM	#17
FuckingRotter The Fist of Fury. Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Entering the.... Posts: 9,649 Reputation: 118903	As it happens Mr Twister, I consider it a plus, I'm not weighed down by other peoples emotional traumas. __________________ Fist is a four letter word. So is fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, fist fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, and, well you get the fist-fucking picture.... THE WESTCOUNTRY SHALL RISE AGAIN! Yay! It's pink! Don't think.... FEEL! We're Englishmen, and we came here, to rape your women and drink your beer. I went back in time and voted for Hitler. Pouring oil on troubled waters since 2008. Then lighting a fucking match.

02-22-2009, 06:17 PM	#18
Reimagined Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: America Posts: 25 Reputation: 784	The title of this thread leaves a bitter taste in the mouth.

02-22-2009, 10:55 PM	#20
RavishAGirl Privileged Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Waiting under your bed Posts: 303 Reputation: 5972	I don't like the title of this thread much, either. There are people very close to me who have been raped, and I do not find that arousing. I find it angering. It makes me want to find the bastards who did it and beat them into a pulp. //Ravish