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Originally Posted by Lucy.
There is a big difference between rape fantasy and rape reality. There is also a big difference in members attitudes and experience on this forum. To believe that no member on this board has ever had any real life experience of the subject matter is naive and to believe that every member of this board has a real life experience is equally naive.
There will be some people here who undoubtedly will think "Whore got what she deserved". While that is a cruel statement, some will think it, simply because the site is a site for rape fantasies, and some's fantasies are a little more real than others.
There will also undoubtedly be the ones who think "Oh that poor girl". Most probably are so immune to it all now that they really just cannot put any sympathy towards it and really couldn't care less.
The advice that will be given by people who fantasise about rape will not match in any way the advice given on boards specialising in victim support.
There are far more of those types of forums and they can be found via a simple web search.
This is only a good place to start if he is prepared for people to have an open discussion about his friends experience, because however tactless, some people will. This board is focused on the act as a pleasurable subject and not as a bad thing, so it really is probably the worst place to start.
Just my opinion though.
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You make some good valid points here.
The thing, I dashed of the reply quickly, so I didn't really explain myself. So here goes.
Some of what I may say may seen a bit naive, but time and experience (ok, oldish age) have taught me to be this way. I take things on the net at face value. Sometimes it is better to trust the wrong person, than not trust at all.
Right, anyway, I don't know if you have read the real rape thread in the idle talk section, but amongst the posts there are number of post detailing their experiences. Ah but they could be false, you are thinking, made up by men masquerading as women. Well, yeah they could be, but I could be a woman masquerading as a man, or you instead of you being Lucy, you could be Alan. So why worry.
Now, a hyperthetical situation, I have a friend who gets raped, I'm not sure where to turn. I'm sitting at my computer idlely flicking through my fav forum when bang, it hits me where I can look for some advice, so I post. Someone, as has been suggested says, google rape crisis centre, I slap my forehead in a d'oh why didn't I think of that manner, and merrily google away.
My problem wasn't with him being told, don't go here, google it, it was with the yawn comment (Sorry Chi, not trying to start anything, just explaining to Lucy)
BTW, believe it or not I know of one person on this forum who has some experience with rape victims...me. Years ago, I found that a girl I knew had been raped, I saw the devestation caused to her, and felt my own confusion and ineptness when dealing with it. Remember this was back in the stone age when the internet didn't really outside in the real world, at least not in my parents house in Grays. Now, you can belive me or not, with the utmost respect, it doesn't bother me either way.