Are we twisted? Or just different? - Rape Board

Draper89 · 11-06-2007, 01:29 PM

I've had rape fantasys since the age of 4 (no joke). It was the first time I remember getting an erection. I've never discussed my fantasys with anyone, as I know no-one would understand I would just be considered sick or evil. I9 find the idea of real rape to be horrible. But I just can't help but have the fantasys. I've analaysed my childhood and tried to search for things that could have made me the way I am.

My question is, do you guys would also share my 'iffliction' think we are sick, evil, twisted etc. Or are we just different?

Thanks

Curiously · 11-06-2007, 01:35 PM

Not a guy, but I'll respond. Fantasy or consensual roleplay, just different. I didn't really develop my fantasy control fantasies until my late teens. Rape isn't really my exact turn-on, but it's mixed up in there. For me, I just get so stimulated at the idea of being completely dominated or controlled by a guy, forced to respond. Obviously, if we're talking true, non-consensual rape, then that violates just about every kind of ethical moral norm. But the world is still free enough that adults can enjoy there fantasies. Even if we have to be careful about who we disclose them too.

Curiously

Draper89 · 11-06-2007, 01:40 PM

Yeah, I find it a major turn-on being dominant and in-controll. I just find the idea iof completely taking over a girls body unbelieveable.

kodavictimm · 11-06-2007, 01:49 PM

It's like any other fetish, it's just different for those who enjoy it and it's weird for those who don't understand it... or are afraid of it due to miseducation or religious brainwashing perhaps...

ego · 11-06-2007, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Draper89

My question is, do you guys would also share my 'iffliction' think we are sick, evil, twisted etc. Or are we just different?

I think we are normal. Rape (as a term) is abnormal.
Considering that human kind lives on that planet for about 160.000 years and rape -with the definition we give nowadays- appeard about 120 years ago, its only a passing fashion.

GOATBOY · 11-06-2007, 04:13 PM

we're more normal than you could ever believe.

gaggirl · 11-06-2007, 04:24 PM

yeah normal! very normal. i had mine from a young age too buddy, they started innocently enough and grew from there and developed over time

people into this who have had the guts to meet up with myself and my hubs for a coffee (or more hehe) are struck with how "normal" we are. One guy said we we more normal and down to earth and real than most of the vanilla couples hed met

so dont worry about whether your normal twisted or bent being kinky (or having this particular kink) your in sane company! enjoy it!!

somedude · 11-06-2007, 04:42 PM

Oh we're twisted and evil...but it's fun!

Embrace your inner pervert and you will find happiness! Advice from a pervert who is proud of it

Jennevieve · 11-06-2007, 05:14 PM

I think it's kind of normal. I mean, for women to want to be dominated is - physically, at least - a lot about our instinctive search for protection, a strong mate, etc, no? And men are programmed to GET THEIR SEED OUT THERE.

I'm a chick, but yeah, Ken was raping Barbie when I was a kid. I remember playing barbies with my little sister, and of course the Barbies were doin' it, and I was like "she's not supposed to like it..." and my sister was like "???why???"

My boyfriend/Master, who is a hardcore dom, knew he was into it since he was around five years old as well.

I know it can be difficult to talk about with people who aren't into stuff like this, because that's what society has made it into: a sick and twisted desire. And people who really PRACTICE these things, like people who actually go out and rape people (not rape scene, real rape) are pretty sick and twisted. But there's a HUGE difference between fantasizing and doing, and there's a HUGE difference between safe & sane consensual non-consent and real rape.

It's like the difference between someone who wants to eat tons and tons of junk food all the time, and someone who actually DOES, and gets fat/diabetes/etc. The reason that people might look down on them isn't because they're disgusted that they wanted to eat so much, it's because they let themselves give in to desires that effectively destroyed their lives.

MADDOGMCMANAMAN · 11-06-2007, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Draper89

Yeah, I find it a major turn-on being dominant and in-controll. I just find the idea iof completely taking over a girls body unbelieveable.

that is the whole thing in a nutshell !! - Draper89 for president !!!!

Ntense · 11-07-2007, 12:54 AM

We're twisted AND different, but there's nothing abnormal about it. A lot of us got the initial triggers in childhood, then it blossomed during puberty or soon after into full-blown *Pervert*

and we're damn proud of it! (laughing) It's probably a lot safer to date one of us than a mundane 'cos we take STOP or it's equivalent seriously.

Aphrodite · 11-07-2007, 03:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Draper89

I've had rape fantasys since the age of 4 (no joke). It was the first time I remember getting an erection. I've never discussed my fantasys with anyone, as I know no-one would understand I would just be considered sick or evil. I9 find the idea of real rape to be horrible. But I just can't help but have the fantasys. I've analaysed my childhood and tried to search for things that could have made me the way I am.

My question is, do you guys would also share my 'iffliction' think we are sick, evil, twisted etc. Or are we just different?

Thanks

I can so relate to what your saying.
I had the real rape fantasy's from when I was lik 14 (also I hate the idea of real rape ), but when I was a little girl I already wanted fairy tales to end with the prince charming dead and the princess marying the bad guy. ( of course I did not have a clue of what rape was at that age)
what I do remember though was that I had alot of friends who also liked the not so happy ending in very tales, so maybe we are not so weird, maybe we are the ones that dare to say how they feel.

Draper89 · 11-07-2007, 06:26 AM

Thanks for the replies guys and thanks for being so understanding. And thank you MADDOGMCMANAMAN for voting for me lol.

NoTrouble · 11-07-2007, 09:16 AM

I don't feel twisted or different. I feel like myself. I'm normal---at least to me. Certainly from my perspective, it is relative.... sometimes others can adequately judge our intent, based on words and actions. Do those around me percieve me as an evil rapist??? Well, I don't know their innermost thoughts, but the way I feel and how I'm treated is diametrically opposite from how one views a rapist.

I am a gentleman. I hold the door for folks (coming or going), I leave excellent tips for decent or better service. I look to make a relationship work through building trust, mutual respect and stellar communication. I am cooperative and go the extra mile in making hard situations better, when I'm able to.

I enjoy dominating a woman who thrives in service and obedience. Its complimentary from all the aspects I've looked at: mentally, physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, morally, ethically and even religiously (though admitedly I'm NOT religious).

Fantasy rape is just that: "FANTASY". I think about it, and enjoy topics/discussions with it as the subject. I've first discussed, then played with the edges of non-consenual'ity in a couple of relationships, and then only after she convinced me she was not just consenting, but willilng to be involved in such adventures.

The relationship Kodavictimm and Virginfantasy (see several topical threads established on this) is so directly related that, and simply put is awesome and beautiful. I wish them ALL the success and enjoyment and terror possible.

I think it is normal and healthy to think outside the box, going from the stoic middleground to the ends/extremes sometimes. Such adventures give us perspective. We see, understand and comprehend the world in a way that is profound, deep and complex..... far more so, than those who ONLY live in the box, period, and won't come out even-------"its too scary a world out there" kind of mentality (and fear!).

I think and act in healthy, sensible, rational and responsible ways. I am responsible for my actions and take that seriously. I deal with folks from the same perspective---until they give me reason to think/do otherwise. Meaning, I let them take the first swing. Then, all bets are off!

-NT

NoTrouble · 11-07-2007, 09:17 AM

In rereading my post, I also see my signature/tag line....... ok, so maybe I am a BIT different. HAHAHAHA

-NT

Zim · 11-07-2007, 11:38 AM

i like to think that, while, i might be twisted, im actually bringing balance back into the grand scheme of things. if it werent for us colorful folks, the world would be rather bland. *gives a round of aplause for everyone on the board for making the world as cool as it is* Yay us!

SecretObsession · 11-07-2007, 06:45 PM

Sick and twisted is a good thing

forCeMe · 11-08-2007, 02:11 PM

i think it's normal to have fantasies, no matter how strange or wierd they are. so yes, people who fantasize about rape are, ceterus peribus, normal. now, whether or not someone is actually sick, twisted, etc., is a different story.

11-06-2007, 01:29 PM	#1
Draper89 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 5 Reputation: 10	Are we twisted? Or just different? I've had rape fantasys since the age of 4 (no joke). It was the first time I remember getting an erection. I've never discussed my fantasys with anyone, as I know no-one would understand I would just be considered sick or evil. I9 find the idea of real rape to be horrible. But I just can't help but have the fantasys. I've analaysed my childhood and tried to search for things that could have made me the way I am. My question is, do you guys would also share my 'iffliction' think we are sick, evil, twisted etc. Or are we just different? Thanks

11-06-2007, 01:49 PM	#4
kodavictimm Privileged Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 502 Reputation: 484	It's like any other fetish, it's just different for those who enjoy it and it's weird for those who don't understand it... or are afraid of it due to miseducation or religious brainwashing perhaps... __________________ No, I don't think I will rape you, although you need raping, badly. That's what's wrong with you. You should be raped and often, and by someone who knows how.

11-06-2007, 04:13 PM	#6
GOATBOY Privileged Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: london uk Posts: 627 Reputation: 4793	we're more normal than you could ever believe. __________________ HAPPINESS IS A DRY PUSSY

11-06-2007, 04:42 PM	#8
somedude W.I.R. and Marshal Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Way out West!!!! Posts: 8,566 Reputation: 124981	Oh we're twisted and evil...but it's fun! Embrace your inner pervert and you will find happiness! Advice from a pervert who is proud of it __________________ I'm a pervert and proud of it!

11-07-2007, 12:54 AM	#11
Ntense Privileged Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Texass Posts: 688 Reputation: 541	We're twisted AND different, but there's nothing abnormal about it. A lot of us got the initial triggers in childhood, then it blossomed during puberty or soon after into full-blown Pervert and we're damn proud of it! (laughing) It's probably a lot safer to date one of us than a mundane 'cos we take STOP or it's equivalent seriously. __________________ Character is what you are in the dark... John Whorfin

11-06-2007, 01:35 PM	#2
Curiously Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 18 Reputation: 12	Not a guy, but I'll respond. Fantasy or consensual roleplay, just different. I didn't really develop my fantasy control fantasies until my late teens. Rape isn't really my exact turn-on, but it's mixed up in there. For me, I just get so stimulated at the idea of being completely dominated or controlled by a guy, forced to respond. Obviously, if we're talking true, non-consensual rape, then that violates just about every kind of ethical moral norm. But the world is still free enough that adults can enjoy there fantasies. Even if we have to be careful about who we disclose them too. Curiously

11-06-2007, 01:40 PM	#3
Draper89 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 5 Reputation: 10	Yeah, I find it a major turn-on being dominant and in-controll. I just find the idea iof completely taking over a girls body unbelieveable.

11-06-2007, 04:24 PM	#7
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	yeah normal! very normal. i had mine from a young age too buddy, they started innocently enough and grew from there and developed over time people into this who have had the guts to meet up with myself and my hubs for a coffee (or more hehe) are struck with how "normal" we are. One guy said we we more normal and down to earth and real than most of the vanilla couples hed met so dont worry about whether your normal twisted or bent being kinky (or having this particular kink) your in sane company! enjoy it!!

11-06-2007, 05:14 PM	#9
Jennevieve Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 97 Reputation: 118	I think it's kind of normal. I mean, for women to want to be dominated is - physically, at least - a lot about our instinctive search for protection, a strong mate, etc, no? And men are programmed to GET THEIR SEED OUT THERE. I'm a chick, but yeah, Ken was raping Barbie when I was a kid. I remember playing barbies with my little sister, and of course the Barbies were doin' it, and I was like "she's not supposed to like it..." and my sister was like "???why???" My boyfriend/Master, who is a hardcore dom, knew he was into it since he was around five years old as well. I know it can be difficult to talk about with people who aren't into stuff like this, because that's what society has made it into: a sick and twisted desire. And people who really PRACTICE these things, like people who actually go out and rape people (not rape scene, real rape) are pretty sick and twisted. But there's a HUGE difference between fantasizing and doing, and there's a HUGE difference between safe & sane consensual non-consent and real rape. It's like the difference between someone who wants to eat tons and tons of junk food all the time, and someone who actually DOES, and gets fat/diabetes/etc. The reason that people might look down on them isn't because they're disgusted that they wanted to eat so much, it's because they let themselves give in to desires that effectively destroyed their lives.

11-07-2007, 06:26 AM	#13
Draper89 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 5 Reputation: 10	Thanks for the replies guys and thanks for being so understanding. And thank you MADDOGMCMANAMAN for voting for me lol.

11-07-2007, 09:16 AM	#14
NoTrouble Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Baltimore, Md Posts: 110 Reputation: 12	I don't feel twisted or different. I feel like myself. I'm normal---at least to me. Certainly from my perspective, it is relative.... sometimes others can adequately judge our intent, based on words and actions. Do those around me percieve me as an evil rapist??? Well, I don't know their innermost thoughts, but the way I feel and how I'm treated is diametrically opposite from how one views a rapist. I am a gentleman. I hold the door for folks (coming or going), I leave excellent tips for decent or better service. I look to make a relationship work through building trust, mutual respect and stellar communication. I am cooperative and go the extra mile in making hard situations better, when I'm able to. I enjoy dominating a woman who thrives in service and obedience. Its complimentary from all the aspects I've looked at: mentally, physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, morally, ethically and even religiously (though admitedly I'm NOT religious). Fantasy rape is just that: "FANTASY". I think about it, and enjoy topics/discussions with it as the subject. I've first discussed, then played with the edges of non-consenual'ity in a couple of relationships, and then only after she convinced me she was not just consenting, but willilng to be involved in such adventures. The relationship Kodavictimm and Virginfantasy (see several topical threads established on this) is so directly related that, and simply put is awesome and beautiful. I wish them ALL the success and enjoyment and terror possible. I think it is normal and healthy to think outside the box, going from the stoic middleground to the ends/extremes sometimes. Such adventures give us perspective. We see, understand and comprehend the world in a way that is profound, deep and complex..... far more so, than those who ONLY live in the box, period, and won't come out even-------"its too scary a world out there" kind of mentality (and fear!). I think and act in healthy, sensible, rational and responsible ways. I am responsible for my actions and take that seriously. I deal with folks from the same perspective---until they give me reason to think/do otherwise. Meaning, I let them take the first swing. Then, all bets are off! -NT __________________ ---Your fear, your stark terror. Poor baby! Yes, I think I SHALL keep you a day longer and rape you some more.

11-07-2007, 09:17 AM	#15
NoTrouble Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Baltimore, Md Posts: 110 Reputation: 12	In rereading my post, I also see my signature/tag line....... ok, so maybe I am a BIT different. HAHAHAHA -NT __________________ ---Your fear, your stark terror. Poor baby! Yes, I think I SHALL keep you a day longer and rape you some more.

11-07-2007, 11:38 AM	#16
Zim Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 109 Reputation: 103	i like to think that, while, i might be twisted, im actually bringing balance back into the grand scheme of things. if it werent for us colorful folks, the world would be rather bland. gives a round of aplause for everyone on the board for making the world as cool as it is Yay us! __________________ Rape - It's like saying hello in Japan.

11-07-2007, 06:45 PM	#17
SecretObsession Passion's Playtoy Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,591 Reputation: 11692	Sick and twisted is a good thing

11-08-2007, 02:11 PM	#18
forCeMe Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: North Carolina, USA Posts: 30 Reputation: 1387	i think it's normal to have fantasies, no matter how strange or wierd they are. so yes, people who fantasize about rape are, ceterus peribus, normal. now, whether or not someone is actually sick, twisted, etc., is a different story.