Would you date a rapist ? - Rape Board

shysnale · 10-31-2008, 05:09 PM

Girls,

Let's imagine you meet a very nice & lovely guy, you are starting to know each other pretty well, you went for drinks several times, even had dinner, looks like your next appointments will lead to something more intimate, and you're pretty happy thinking about that.

There is just one thing that bugs your mind.
This guy has honestly told you he did time for raping a woman.
He said : 'Ok, before our relation goes any farther, I want you to know something about me .......'

You are impressed by his honesty, because he could have kept the thing secret and never talk about it. But he insisted on the fact that jail time made him think a lot about morality and that he is very happy he could pay his debt to the society. He said from now on, I will follow one line of morality, no matter if it's right or wrong, jail pain pushed me to make this commitment to god, and I will not let him down.

His eyes were sparked as he was talking. You got a little scared when he add this : 'You know sometimes prison makes you feel so bad you have to prove yourself you are still existing. That's why a lot of people are turning to religion while behind bars. Because they have the need to feel something, to believe in something. As for me, it went farther than the need to believe in something, I've read the bible and got interested in other religion when I was out of jail, and I know Christianity really is my way'.

Would you give that man a chance to prove he can be a valuable person and date him or would you get away from him ?

ChiTownHoney · 10-31-2008, 10:25 PM

Well...I honestly dont think that a guy would ever admit something like that to a woman he is just dating casually.

This sounds bad, but that shit would really turn me on. But not like how you said it. Like if I heard it from a third party and when I questioned it, he ignored it and I knew it was true. A bad man's work is never finished, so there would most likely be the possibility that he would revert back to some bad ways and if you dont know me by now, know this: I love danger.

I think about stuff like this alot when checking out sexy guys...hmm...what is his nature? Whats the worst thing he has ever done? Had he ever hit someone? Slapped a woman? How violent does he get? All these possibilites are enough to drive me crazy and gets me really hot.

So my answer is the complete opposite of what you expected. I wouldnt run and I wouldnt hope he learned his lesson ;P

FuckingRotter · 10-31-2008, 11:11 PM

Well....

I just "metW this girl for the first time, who drove 3 1/2 hours to where I live. Rented an apartment in town. She was expecting to meet me for coffee. Instead I got in her apartment whilst she was in the shower and waited until she came out.l I jumped her. I took 100mg of Viagra before I got there. I spent 3 hours sticking my cock in her, and beating her. It was the last thing she expected. She's now been in the shower again, and is getting dressed up so we can go out and eat.

But would you date a rapist?

shysnale · 10-31-2008, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by ChiTownHoney

Well...I honestly dont think that a guy would ever admit something like that to a woman he is just dating casually.

This sounds bad, but that shit would really turn me on. But not like how you said it. Like if I heard it from a third party and when I questioned it, he ignored it and I knew it was true. A bad man's work is never finished, so there would most likely be the possibility that he would revert back to some bad ways and if you dont know me by now, know this: I love danger.

I think about stuff like this alot when checking out sexy guys...hmm...what is his nature? Whats the worst thing he has ever done? Had he ever hit someone? Slapped a woman? How violent does he get? All these possibilites are enough to drive me crazy and gets me really hot.

So my answer is the complete opposite of what you expected. I wouldnt run and I wouldnt hope he learned his lesson ;P

Thanks for your answer.
I have been exposed to danger, and I'm still trying to understand why I enjoyed it. I could not say I love it, I would actually not look for it, but I know I had interesting feelings when a drunk and mad friend was driving crazy downtown.

We were three people in his car, and we were kind of yelling at him. He was running all the red lights. I don't know how we didn't crash in someone else car. This guy was violent and got involved in fights quite often. He was a heavy drinker. The day I understood while he was drinking I felt so sorry for him I began to like him more. Both of his parents were blind, and he was meant to turn blind one day or another. Kind of a genetic curse. I thought whow if I had that much to worry about, I would probably turn as bad as he was, maybe even worse. I liked him. The cool thing with him was he was a very direct person. When you were around him, you knew exactly if he liked you or not, because when he disliked someone, he made it very clear very fast. Maybe that's one of the charms of men living on the edge. The way they make things more simple. I think I have a clue about what I liked in those dangerous moments. Danger made me believe I could face all my demons in one time. You know what I mean ? I thought if I could survive a violent car crash, then why the fuck would I bother listening to all these voices upstairs in my head. I was just 18 back then. Today I realized it was all bullshit because no car crash could ban my demons. But still, I like to think about the past and those times on the edge.

Is that the way you feel about danger ?
Are you putting yourself on the edge voluntarily ?

lol - sorry I'm so curious

ShyAngel · 11-01-2008, 12:11 AM

The way you described the guy in question in your first post, I think if I was just getting to know someone like this and he decided to come clean about his past and I thought he was being truthful about how he felt and what he did...I would give him the benefit of the doubt and not chuck him to the curb because he had done this.

But it also would depend on what kind situation the rape he had been convicted of was....did he beat her up really bad as well as rape her...did she spend time in the hospital? Or was it a situation like they were both really drunk and he was like OMG what have I done, afterwards?

I believe in giving people second chances and have a marshmallow personality.

But knowing this about someone would also give me the fear factor in the relationship and fear can sometimes be an arousing aphrodisiac.

doggystylethatgirl · 11-01-2008, 07:45 PM

............. what a dumb question

doggystylethatgirl · 11-01-2008, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ShyAngel

The way you described the guy in question in your first post, I think if I was just getting to know someone like this and he decided to come clean about his past and I thought he was being truthful about how he felt and what he did...I would give him the benefit of the doubt and not chuck him to the curb because he had done this.

But it also would depend on what kind situation the rape he had been convicted of was....did he beat her up really bad as well as rape her...did she spend time in the hospital? Or was it a situation like they were both really drunk and he was like OMG what have I done, afterwards?

I believe in giving people second chances and have a marshmallow personality.

But knowing this about someone would also give me the fear factor in the relationship and fear can sometimes be an arousing aphrodisiac.

I like your answer. Marshmallow personality? ...

..... how sweet it is..

... what exactly is that anyway ? sounds soft n cozy

theman · 11-01-2008, 09:27 PM

(This post is from the point of view of if I were a woman.)

Hmmmm, like someone else said, it would probably depend on whether or not the rape was violent so on.

I can say though, that I wouldn't want to be alone with him for a while. I guess that would kind of cause problems for a relationship though lol.

That's a really hard quesiton.

TZOFOSHO · 11-01-2008, 10:21 PM

A real rapist wouldn't giver her a choice.

...
imo the smart option would be no, once a cheater always a cheater for an analogy. People don't change major personality traits, and to be capable of rape you have some sort of antisocial problem.

ChiTownHoney · 11-02-2008, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ShyAngel

But knowing this about someone would also give me the fear factor in the relationship and fear can sometimes be an arousing aphrodisiac.

how beautifully worded. I'm so glad I'm not the only one!!

ShyAngel · 11-02-2008, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by doggystylethatgirl

I like your answer. Marshmallow personality? ...

..... how sweet it is..

... what exactly is that anyway ? sounds soft n cozy

I would describe a Marshmallow personality to be pretty much just like a marshmallow...flexible, adaptable and easily pops back into shape when squeezed. A marshmallow takes life as it comes and is soft hearted..hence the soft center.

nadeshiko · 11-06-2008, 02:46 AM

No, I wouldn't. A man like that would be likely to be abusive and while I would love to be in a relationship with a man who would role-play raping me, and possibly even pretend he was whoring me out (when actually I had total choice of who and when this happened with) I don't want it to be real rape.

Sorry if this is a big disappointment to anyone!

That said, Fucking Rotter, let me know if you ever visit California!

Just make sure to dose me with some Viagra too

gaggirl · 11-06-2008, 02:55 AM

I dont get to date anyone now that im married, but i would play with someone who had done this, would be a turn on to know the person has crossed the threshold -the fear factor, and knowing that heres a man that can have his buttons pushed!

but like some girls mentioned, would depend on what he did and the circumstances... if he cut her up etc then it would be a def no no.... ramirez is sexy but id never invite him into my house

snarkopo · 11-18-2008, 08:51 PM

WRONG section for your little queries shysnale.

10-31-2008, 05:09 PM	#1
shysnale Neurotic Escargot Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Poker Table Posts: 2,754 Reputation: 13179	Would you date a rapist ? Girls, Let's imagine you meet a very nice & lovely guy, you are starting to know each other pretty well, you went for drinks several times, even had dinner, looks like your next appointments will lead to something more intimate, and you're pretty happy thinking about that. There is just one thing that bugs your mind. This guy has honestly told you he did time for raping a woman. He said : 'Ok, before our relation goes any farther, I want you to know something about me .......' You are impressed by his honesty, because he could have kept the thing secret and never talk about it. But he insisted on the fact that jail time made him think a lot about morality and that he is very happy he could pay his debt to the society. He said from now on, I will follow one line of morality, no matter if it's right or wrong, jail pain pushed me to make this commitment to god, and I will not let him down. His eyes were sparked as he was talking. You got a little scared when he add this : 'You know sometimes prison makes you feel so bad you have to prove yourself you are still existing. That's why a lot of people are turning to religion while behind bars. Because they have the need to feel something, to believe in something. As for me, it went farther than the need to believe in something, I've read the bible and got interested in other religion when I was out of jail, and I know Christianity really is my way'. Would you give that man a chance to prove he can be a valuable person and date him or would you get away from him ?

10-31-2008, 10:25 PM	#2
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	Well...I honestly dont think that a guy would ever admit something like that to a woman he is just dating casually. This sounds bad, but that shit would really turn me on. But not like how you said it. Like if I heard it from a third party and when I questioned it, he ignored it and I knew it was true. A bad man's work is never finished, so there would most likely be the possibility that he would revert back to some bad ways and if you dont know me by now, know this: I love danger. I think about stuff like this alot when checking out sexy guys...hmm...what is his nature? Whats the worst thing he has ever done? Had he ever hit someone? Slapped a woman? How violent does he get? All these possibilites are enough to drive me crazy and gets me really hot. So my answer is the complete opposite of what you expected. I wouldnt run and I wouldnt hope he learned his lesson ;P Last edited by ChiTownHoney; 10-31-2008 at 10:30 PM.

11-01-2008, 09:27 PM	#8
theman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 330 Reputation: 1293	(This post is from the point of view of if I were a woman.) Hmmmm, like someone else said, it would probably depend on whether or not the rape was violent so on. I can say though, that I wouldn't want to be alone with him for a while. I guess that would kind of cause problems for a relationship though lol. That's a really hard quesiton. __________________ Into the Russian Mafia \| Kristen the Stripper Billionaire \| Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader

11-01-2008, 10:21 PM	#9
TZOFOSHO Hardest E-thug around Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 970 Reputation: 38545	A real rapist wouldn't giver her a choice. ... imo the smart option would be no, once a cheater always a cheater for an analogy. People don't change major personality traits, and to be capable of rape you have some sort of antisocial problem. __________________ I'm a drunken fool...

10-31-2008, 11:11 PM	#3
FuckingRotter The Fist of Fury. Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Entering the.... Posts: 9,649 Reputation: 118903	Well.... I just "metW this girl for the first time, who drove 3 1/2 hours to where I live. Rented an apartment in town. She was expecting to meet me for coffee. Instead I got in her apartment whilst she was in the shower and waited until she came out.l I jumped her. I took 100mg of Viagra before I got there. I spent 3 hours sticking my cock in her, and beating her. It was the last thing she expected. She's now been in the shower again, and is getting dressed up so we can go out and eat. But would you date a rapist?

11-01-2008, 12:11 AM	#5
ShyAngel Privileged Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 959 Reputation: 21985	The way you described the guy in question in your first post, I think if I was just getting to know someone like this and he decided to come clean about his past and I thought he was being truthful about how he felt and what he did...I would give him the benefit of the doubt and not chuck him to the curb because he had done this. But it also would depend on what kind situation the rape he had been convicted of was....did he beat her up really bad as well as rape her...did she spend time in the hospital? Or was it a situation like they were both really drunk and he was like OMG what have I done, afterwards? I believe in giving people second chances and have a marshmallow personality. But knowing this about someone would also give me the fear factor in the relationship and fear can sometimes be an arousing aphrodisiac.

11-06-2008, 02:46 AM	#12
nadeshiko Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: San Francisco Posts: 19 Reputation: 68	No, I wouldn't. A man like that would be likely to be abusive and while I would love to be in a relationship with a man who would role-play raping me, and possibly even pretend he was whoring me out (when actually I had total choice of who and when this happened with) I don't want it to be real rape. Sorry if this is a big disappointment to anyone! That said, Fucking Rotter, let me know if you ever visit California! Just make sure to dose me with some Viagra too

11-06-2008, 02:55 AM	#13
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	I dont get to date anyone now that im married, but i would play with someone who had done this, would be a turn on to know the person has crossed the threshold -the fear factor, and knowing that heres a man that can have his buttons pushed! but like some girls mentioned, would depend on what he did and the circumstances... if he cut her up etc then it would be a def no no.... ramirez is sexy but id never invite him into my house

11-18-2008, 08:51 PM	#14
snarkopo It's been fun Join Date: May 2008 Location: away Posts: 1,549 Reputation: 70796	WRONG section for your little queries shysnale.