Monogamy vs rape fantasies - Rape Board

Casabianca · 06-26-2010, 03:20 AM

For quite some time now I've been thinking about how my attitude toward sex is affecting my relationships.
I have been in a few longer relationships, but regardless of how well matched I might be with a girl I always have a feeling that I couldn't stay in a monogamous relationship forever.

My fantasies are about being in the position of power, conquering a girl, and pushing her limits in sex. â€œForcingâ€ her to make things she hasn't done before and making her completely my own.

But once I'm past this stage with a girl I feel that slowly sex becomes less and less satisfying.
I know, that this is a general problem in sex with the same partner for a longer time, but I have a strong feeling, that rape fantasies multiply the effect.

Once you've dominated a girl, made her your bitch, you may kind of get bored... You know her reactions, how to make her obey your will in sex, and it's not a challenge any more. You may try different things, role-play etc., but it's never quite the same fun as exploring someone's limits at the very beginning.

It's not that I need to have a different girl every week... I just can't imagine myself having sex with just one girl for the rest of my life.

I wonder if you feel the same way?
Do you think that you can have fully satisfying sex life (including fulfilling your rape fantasies) with just one partner?

The longer I think about it, the less it seems probable to me.

Casabianca

gaggirl · 06-26-2010, 10:36 PM

I feel the same way, from the other side. I cant be monogomous because even though Im married and he does rape me on occasion, I know who it is, whats going to happen, I know I am not scared, and I know that one glare and he stops doing what hes doing (because Im pretty damned bossy and Ill make his life hell for a while hehe)

So I think about other men all the time, men I dont know, men that could go too far, men that could blackmail me, men that could make it real, men that dont know or dont care about my anger or emotions unless it benefits them. but ultimately even when I fantasise about being enslaved, I always escape because I dont think there is such a thing as a happy ever after. Even if I "fall in love" with my captor, I ultimately escape. Youve just confirmed for me, that a man, when he gets all he wants form a woman, loses his interest in her because hes won the challenge.

Even without the rape fantasy thing, I dont believe it is natural to be monogomous... On the whole sleeping with other men apart from my husband is be really... frustrating rather than satisfying, because they dont know or WANT to know or cant last long enough to know what makes me feel good or what makes me tick, but once in a while I find a lover that cares about his conquests pleasure or simply has that chemistry. EVery now and then I get the shits with the crap out there and I stop swinging, but I always go back.... I need that variety for my fantasy life is rich and demands satisfying. I still havent had the "perfect rape" yet... Personally I would rather be frustrated trying to find that unholy grail than to not try at all and be frustrating wondering "what if"

scarletembrace · 10-05-2010, 12:42 PM

I think you can have satisfying sex with the One partner,if they are right for you because you want them,rape fantasy or not,expecially if you become obsessed

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I think aswell it can remain challenging because they learn more about you aswell and knew ways to manipulate you and get away,unless they are boring.

I didnt believe sex would be satisfying any other way,untill recently.

I understand though,it has been a concern for me aswell... its not just something i want sexually either its become an emotional need and role play just doesnt cut it for me.

A relationship doesnt really allow for real rape.....it never seems real.

oh well..

GeorgeDaBrute · 10-09-2010, 02:41 AM

no love so pure as that of a stalker.

06-26-2010, 03:20 AM	#1
Casabianca Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Poland Posts: 7 Reputation: 10	Monogamy vs rape fantasies For quite some time now I've been thinking about how my attitude toward sex is affecting my relationships. I have been in a few longer relationships, but regardless of how well matched I might be with a girl I always have a feeling that I couldn't stay in a monogamous relationship forever. My fantasies are about being in the position of power, conquering a girl, and pushing her limits in sex. â€œForcingâ€ her to make things she hasn't done before and making her completely my own. But once I'm past this stage with a girl I feel that slowly sex becomes less and less satisfying. I know, that this is a general problem in sex with the same partner for a longer time, but I have a strong feeling, that rape fantasies multiply the effect. Once you've dominated a girl, made her your bitch, you may kind of get bored... You know her reactions, how to make her obey your will in sex, and it's not a challenge any more. You may try different things, role-play etc., but it's never quite the same fun as exploring someone's limits at the very beginning. It's not that I need to have a different girl every week... I just can't imagine myself having sex with just one girl for the rest of my life. I wonder if you feel the same way? Do you think that you can have fully satisfying sex life (including fulfilling your rape fantasies) with just one partner? The longer I think about it, the less it seems probable to me. Casabianca

06-26-2010, 10:36 PM	#2
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	I feel the same way, from the other side. I cant be monogomous because even though Im married and he does rape me on occasion, I know who it is, whats going to happen, I know I am not scared, and I know that one glare and he stops doing what hes doing (because Im pretty damned bossy and Ill make his life hell for a while hehe) So I think about other men all the time, men I dont know, men that could go too far, men that could blackmail me, men that could make it real, men that dont know or dont care about my anger or emotions unless it benefits them. but ultimately even when I fantasise about being enslaved, I always escape because I dont think there is such a thing as a happy ever after. Even if I "fall in love" with my captor, I ultimately escape. Youve just confirmed for me, that a man, when he gets all he wants form a woman, loses his interest in her because hes won the challenge. Even without the rape fantasy thing, I dont believe it is natural to be monogomous... On the whole sleeping with other men apart from my husband is be really... frustrating rather than satisfying, because they dont know or WANT to know or cant last long enough to know what makes me feel good or what makes me tick, but once in a while I find a lover that cares about his conquests pleasure or simply has that chemistry. EVery now and then I get the shits with the crap out there and I stop swinging, but I always go back.... I need that variety for my fantasy life is rich and demands satisfying. I still havent had the "perfect rape" yet... Personally I would rather be frustrated trying to find that unholy grail than to not try at all and be frustrating wondering "what if" Last edited by gaggirl; 06-26-2010 at 10:41 PM.

10-05-2010, 12:42 PM	#3
scarletembrace Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: In another reality Posts: 40 Reputation: 779	I think you can have satisfying sex with the One partner,if they are right for you because you want them,rape fantasy or not,expecially if you become obsessed. I think aswell it can remain challenging because they learn more about you aswell and knew ways to manipulate you and get away,unless they are boring. I didnt believe sex would be satisfying any other way,untill recently. I understand though,it has been a concern for me aswell... its not just something i want sexually either its become an emotional need and role play just doesnt cut it for me. A relationship doesnt really allow for real rape.....it never seems real. oh well.. __________________ ,Nails tear at raw flesh,cutting deep, tossing and turning, quivering with delight as I weep. Eyes wide open and mouth taped shut breathing barely, hands tied up. A loving heart completly ravished, a home for two,taught to share. Blood runs thick on skin so pale and just like my soul,body bare. Tears are dry, mascara stale, My twisted fairy tale. (c) Crimsondesire

10-09-2010, 02:41 AM	#4
GeorgeDaBrute Privileged Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: North of Kansas City KS Posts: 426 Reputation: 2180	no love so pure as that of a stalker.