Sex Addiction - Rape Board

gaggirl · 11-15-2006, 12:41 AM

Was watching an interesting show last night about sex addiciton. Ignoring all the elbows I was getting from the man of the house, I was disturbed to find it struck a few chords with me.

Does anyone else consider them maybe possibly being a sex addict? If so... Do you think that it is related to your rape fetish or is it separate?

My rape fetish started innocently and I like to think its separate but the years when I was working I didnt crave rape like the way I did before and after..

(so is selling your body is a kind of rape in itself?)

BeDastardly · 11-15-2006, 12:49 AM

An addiction to sex would mean you'd have an all-consuming desire to obtain it by any means necessary, and damn the consequences. While fulfilling my rape fantasies via rp or watching movies is VERY arousing for me, they don't have so much control over me that I forsake my friends, family, and job because of them. I think, like all else in life, as long as there's a sense of balance, then you're pretty much OK, even though our particular fantasies are considered to be well outside the mainstream.

gaggirl · 11-15-2006, 01:10 AM

phew okay... I can easily tick all of those elemrents off, but that was me years ago : damn the consequences all consuming need fuck everything else and not being able to say no even though you really really want to. So maybe it was justa phase... *smirk*

BeDastardly · 11-15-2006, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by gaggirl

phew okay... I can easily tick all of those elemrents off, but that was me years ago : damn the consequences all consuming need fuck everything else and not being able to say no even though you really really want to. So maybe it was justa phase... *smirk*

Sounds like you HAD the addiction and managed to work your way through it. I used to be the same way when I was younger. My all-consuming passion was sex and porn and I went out of my way to get it, no matter what. However, once I got older, with the help of some counseling, I learned how to channel that energy into other areas.

By the way, if you haven't read it already, I highly recommend you check out the book "Portnoy's Complaint" by Phillip Roth. It's an excellent read that manages to be both informative AND humorous.

From Wikipedia - "Portnoy's Complaint: A disorder in which strongly-felt ethical and altruistic impulses are perpetually warring with extreme sexual longings, often of a perverse nature..."

gaggirl · 11-15-2006, 01:43 AM

you know whats funny about that? the way I got past it.. going by the only thing that stopped it controlling me so much was when I began getting paid for it

oh but I still had to get counselling yeah.. but it felt like at least Iwasnt giving everything of me away, I was getting something in return.. and something my male friends used to be sooo jealous of. Being able to do that..

congrats on getting past it, it looked really nasty for some addiucts more than others. Does it still chase you?

thanks for the heads up on the book that sounds alright

I need a good book to read atm too

BeDastardly · 11-15-2006, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by gaggirl

you know whats funny about that? the way I got past it.. going by the only thing that stopped it controlling me so much was when I began getting paid for it

oh but I still had to get counselling yeah.. but it felt like at least Iwasnt giving everything of me away, I was getting something in return.. and something my male friends used to be sooo jealous of. Being able to do that..

congrats on getting past it, it looked really nasty for some addiucts more than others. Does it still chase you?

thanks for the heads up on the book that sounds alright

I need a good book to read atm too

Thankfully, I haven't been haunted by those old demons in long time. However, I can definitely see how addiction left unchecked can lead to much more sexually violent crimes. Had I not had the harsh wake-up call that forced me to seek professional help, I shudder to think WHERE I would've ended up. I can see why your male friends were jealous. Back in the day, I would've sold myself in a heartbeat if there was a market for it. Unfortunately, the only market for young men here in Philly, is creepy older men and that's just really not my cup of tea.

P.S. - I think you can get a used copy of Portnoy's Complaint from Amazon.com for about $1.97.

gaggirl · 11-15-2006, 02:10 AM

well YES .. I thought of exactly thatwhen I was listening to that guy... if theres no porn theres this.. if Idont wanna masturbate Ill do that.. but I HAVE to get a fix... and what if the man couldnt get one?? and theres this chick.. alone in an alley or whatever.. and hes very badly strung out.

I wondered if two sex addicts got together if that takes care of the problem.. but my man rightly pointed out that theyd probably have to take it to further extremes to get the same hit.

BeDastardly · 11-15-2006, 02:31 AM

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Originally Posted by gaggirl

well YES .. I thought of exactly thatwhen I was listening to that guy... if theres no porn theres this.. if Idont wanna masturbate Ill do that.. but I HAVE to get a fix... and what if the man couldnt get one?? and theres this chick.. alone in an alley or whatever.. and hes very badly strung out.

I wondered if two sex addicts got together if that takes care of the problem.. but my man rightly pointed out that theyd probably have to take it to further extremes to get the same hit.

I'm not sure WHAT would happen if 2 sex addicts got together. It seems to me that they would make a perfect couple. However, I DID find a pretty informative website:

http://www.sexaddict.com/FAQ.html

What did we ever do without the internet?

gaggirl · 11-15-2006, 03:57 AM

THanks for that link! Read it.. made sense.

hmmm..

but why does everything seem to make sex look bad?? porn is bad??

It seems to be a general consensus of mainstream society.. but most of that society is is controlled by religion..

I guess its all about balance.

prey4me · 11-15-2006, 05:29 AM

I believe BeDastardly's point,

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An addiction to sex would mean you'd have an all-consuming desire to obtain it by any means necessary, and damn the consequences.

has some truth, but is overly general. I understand an addiction to be where/when a substance or a behavior is increasingly dominating the brain's pleasure response. Certainly, it can be "an all-consuming desire," etc., but an addiction can be a behavior or a consumption that is not yet at that point.

I suggest that an addiction be defined as a continuum: A person requires progressively larger "fixes" of the behavior, practice, or substance to obtain a satisfactory pleasure response ("high"), and yet the degree of pleasure ("high") is progressively insufficient.

Back in the 1950's (oops! I dated myself!) Pall Mall cigarettes had an ingenious advertising slogan: "Are you smoking more now, and enjoying it less?" Apply that to your sex practice, or your gambling, your drinking, eating, drugging, etc. and you will understand the dynamic of addiction.

Sodoman · 11-15-2006, 06:17 AM

This turned into the gaggirl/BeDastardly thread...Lol We are human animals, so i think everybody is addicted to sex to some degree. Except nuns, virgins, and impotent men and frigid women...

Sternenlied · 11-15-2006, 08:45 AM

Addiction ...

One should differ here a little. Since addiction is considered to be a form of sickness perhaps we should go into detail here.

Nymphomania (female) as well as Satyriasis (male) are the actual "addictions" to sex. People suffering from those have an urgent and permanent desire for sexual intercourse without getting any pleasure from the actual act. If such people do not get their "dose" of sex they may suffer from withdrawal syndromes - physically as well as psychically. Clinically speaking those are addictions.

There is also Hypersexuality - not differentiating sex - "permanent lust" as one might say. Hypersexual people have sex as their only focus in life. Generally not considered to be an addiction, hypersexuality might develop forms of addictive behaviour as well (in fact it mostly does).

Psychologically and clinically that's it. An overdeveloped desire for sex is just an individual feature usually arising during puperty. But as we all know people are quite different so maybe some feel it earlier, some later and some never.

ChiTownHoney · 11-15-2006, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by BeDastardly

An addiction to sex would mean you'd have an all-consuming desire to obtain it by any means necessary, and damn the consequences.

Sounds pretty hot, too bad its not so good for the person

They dont want these thoughts, but it takes over their existence.

I saw on a show how this guy was a sex addict and he was decent looking professional man and he went to prostitutes and his wife was more hurt my his addiction than he was.

joehill · 11-18-2006, 11:21 AM

yes I am a addict so what

Muffler · 11-19-2006, 09:43 AM

Does it count if I'm addicted to wanting to have sex with you Gaggirl?

Oh, and just in case we've picked up any New Zealand Members recently:

"Dus it cownt if um uddectid tu wintang tu huv six wuth yew Giggurl?"

Now American and European members reading that will be thinking, "what the fuck?", but trust me, Australian members will be pissing themselves...

(just kidding my Kiwi friends

)

gaggirl · 11-19-2006, 04:55 PM

lol Ive certainly missed you Muffler

Ive had no Aussie boys to tease!

gaggirl x

Muffler · 11-20-2006, 04:18 AM

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Originally Posted by gaggirl

lol Ive certainly missed you Muffler

Ive had no Aussie boys to tease!

gaggirl x

And I've missed my interrorgation victim, the cold steel of the hand cuffs I have waitnkg for you, shines idly by waiting to clasp around the wrists of your dear self...

TheOpportunist · 11-20-2006, 04:23 AM

I go back and forth, I'm probably clinically addicted but at this point I've nothing else, so who cares?

11-15-2006, 12:41 AM	#1
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	Sex Addiction Was watching an interesting show last night about sex addiciton. Ignoring all the elbows I was getting from the man of the house, I was disturbed to find it struck a few chords with me. Does anyone else consider them maybe possibly being a sex addict? If so... Do you think that it is related to your rape fetish or is it separate? My rape fetish started innocently and I like to think its separate but the years when I was working I didnt crave rape like the way I did before and after.. (so is selling your body is a kind of rape in itself?)

11-15-2006, 12:49 AM	#2
BeDastardly Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 101 Reputation: 75	An addiction to sex would mean you'd have an all-consuming desire to obtain it by any means necessary, and damn the consequences. While fulfilling my rape fantasies via rp or watching movies is VERY arousing for me, they don't have so much control over me that I forsake my friends, family, and job because of them. I think, like all else in life, as long as there's a sense of balance, then you're pretty much OK, even though our particular fantasies are considered to be well outside the mainstream. __________________ "Resistance is Futile."

11-15-2006, 02:10 AM	#7
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	cheap as chips!! well YES .. I thought of exactly thatwhen I was listening to that guy... if theres no porn theres this.. if Idont wanna masturbate Ill do that.. but I HAVE to get a fix... and what if the man couldnt get one?? and theres this chick.. alone in an alley or whatever.. and hes very badly strung out. I wondered if two sex addicts got together if that takes care of the problem.. but my man rightly pointed out that theyd probably have to take it to further extremes to get the same hit.

11-15-2006, 06:17 AM	#11
Sodoman Backdoor Bandit Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: U.S. Posts: 2,144 Reputation: 28425	This turned into the gaggirl/BeDastardly thread...Lol We are human animals, so i think everybody is addicted to sex to some degree. Except nuns, virgins, and impotent men and frigid women... __________________ "The mind is a beautiful thing to fuck."

11-15-2006, 08:45 AM	#12
Sternenlied Unknown Entity Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Niflheim Posts: 2,427 Reputation: 77819	Addiction ... One should differ here a little. Since addiction is considered to be a form of sickness perhaps we should go into detail here. Nymphomania (female) as well as Satyriasis (male) are the actual "addictions" to sex. People suffering from those have an urgent and permanent desire for sexual intercourse without getting any pleasure from the actual act. If such people do not get their "dose" of sex they may suffer from withdrawal syndromes - physically as well as psychically. Clinically speaking those are addictions. There is also Hypersexuality - not differentiating sex - "permanent lust" as one might say. Hypersexual people have sex as their only focus in life. Generally not considered to be an addiction, hypersexuality might develop forms of addictive behaviour as well (in fact it mostly does). Psychologically and clinically that's it. An overdeveloped desire for sex is just an individual feature usually arising during puperty. But as we all know people are quite different so maybe some feel it earlier, some later and some never. __________________ The Life and Death of Sam Crow - How the Sons of Anarchy lost their way

11-15-2006, 01:10 AM	#3
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	phew okay... I can easily tick all of those elemrents off, but that was me years ago : damn the consequences all consuming need fuck everything else and not being able to say no even though you really really want to. So maybe it was justa phase... smirk

11-15-2006, 01:43 AM	#5
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	you know whats funny about that? the way I got past it.. going by the only thing that stopped it controlling me so much was when I began getting paid for it oh but I still had to get counselling yeah.. but it felt like at least Iwasnt giving everything of me away, I was getting something in return.. and something my male friends used to be sooo jealous of. Being able to do that.. congrats on getting past it, it looked really nasty for some addiucts more than others. Does it still chase you? thanks for the heads up on the book that sounds alright I need a good book to read atm too

11-15-2006, 03:57 AM	#9
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	THanks for that link! Read it.. made sense. hmmm.. but why does everything seem to make sex look bad?? porn is bad?? It seems to be a general consensus of mainstream society.. but most of that society is is controlled by religion.. I guess its all about balance.

11-18-2006, 11:21 AM	#14
joehill Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 49 Reputation: 13	yes I am a addict so what

11-19-2006, 09:43 AM	#15
Muffler Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 76 Reputation: 122	Does it count if I'm addicted to wanting to have sex with you Gaggirl? Oh, and just in case we've picked up any New Zealand Members recently: "Dus it cownt if um uddectid tu wintang tu huv six wuth yew Giggurl?" Now American and European members reading that will be thinking, "what the fuck?", but trust me, Australian members will be pissing themselves... (just kidding my Kiwi friends ) __________________ "...as my world darkens, my vision is clearer...

11-19-2006, 04:55 PM	#16
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	lol Ive certainly missed you Muffler Ive had no Aussie boys to tease! gaggirl x

11-20-2006, 04:23 AM	#18
TheOpportunist Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 127 Reputation: 45	I go back and forth, I'm probably clinically addicted but at this point I've nothing else, so who cares?