rape fetish entitlement. - Rape Board

ChiTownHoney · 07-21-2008, 11:42 PM

I was just thinking this morning, I dont know if I would really like for my partner to be into the rape thing. I was just thinking that I love sleep way more than sex, and when I was with my boyfriend it pissed me off when he would try to wake me up for sex or when it was too early in the morning. What if my man was into rape stuff and wanted sex when I wanted to sleep and would just take it when I didnt want to, that would get so annoying! And he would think he was entitled to it just because he knows I like it, I know if I were a man I would think that way. i dont know anymore if I would want a guy into the same thing now.

What does everyone think?

Renegade · 07-21-2008, 11:49 PM

As a rule, I generally don't find sleeping women very attractive. I know the idea - the vision - of a sleeping woman is sexy. But the truth of the matter is 9 out of 10 of you snore like a barnyard animal and if you look REAL close chances are good of finding a small stream of drool coming out the side of your mouth.

On those RARE moments you were lying there like Sleeping Beauty on roofies -then I might pounce.

See these things have a way of balancing themselves out.

Ragman · 07-21-2008, 11:59 PM

For me rape play is far more fun if A) the woman is enjoying it as well and B)She is awake and alert. Just rolling over and forcing my woman when she was barley awake would be a huge turn off.

Once again Chitown we are talking that fine line between fantasy and reality. If he knows your into rough stuff and he uses it as an excuse to just have his way whenever he feels like it.. thats different than having someone who is into rape fantasy, something the both of you can engage in consentually and both enjoy

JohnnyReb · 07-22-2008, 12:54 AM

I never have understood people who say they love sleep. I don't think I've ever before heard someone say that they "love sleep way more than sex."

To quote Uncle Ben, "There will be sleeping enough in the grave."

ChiTownHoney · 07-22-2008, 12:58 AM

Well then why dont you call me a freak then. You have nothing ever to contribute to my ideas and nothing nice to say ever.

JohnnyReb · 07-22-2008, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTownHoney

Well then why dont you call me a freak then. You have nothing ever to contribute to my ideas and nothing nice to say ever.

All I said was that I don't understand people who want to sleep their lives away.

The reason that I don't is, in what is a relatively short time, we are all going to be sleeping for eternity.

See above quote from Franklin.

Ragman · 07-22-2008, 01:14 AM

I happen to enjoy sleep... or perhaps a better thing to say woudl be. I enjoy rest, and sleep is the ultimate form of rest. Very few things are better to me than laying in a comfortable bed, or on a comfortable couch, closing my eyes and jsut.. letting my body stop, no more having to work, no more even "having" to play.. just getting to stop.. and recoup its a very rewarding thing when your body has earned it

ChiTownHoney · 07-22-2008, 01:16 AM

Thank you very much Ragman!

I think there are plenty of people who would rather sleep than have sex. I dont think I am the only one.

Your body needs sleep, or else you will die.

Ragman · 07-22-2008, 01:18 AM

there are definitley times when sleep is prefferable.. I can think of several times in my life where sex was mediocre or bad.. at those times I would have much preffered to be asleep. the opposite is of course also true. there are times when sex is spectacular and I don't care how tired I am

ChiTownHoney · 07-22-2008, 01:20 AM

spectacular sex is a myth I think

getting back to topic...I always thought that it was how it goes. If you are both into the rape thing, he can take it pretty much anytime he wants right?

too busy 91 · 07-22-2008, 01:21 AM

i love my sleep.
sleep till 9am usually...
but if i knew i could roll over and nail my wife at any time.
i would hit it ever time that i got up to get a drink of water screw sleep.
you just need to find someone that will understand that your sleep is important and back off. any time your awake though Game On

Ragman · 07-22-2008, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTownHoney

spectacular sex is a myth I think

getting back to topic...I always thought that it was how it goes. If you are both into the rape thing, he can take it pretty much anytime he wants right?

I still think it would be appropriate to plan things out ahead first. I can't speak for couples that have more open and less stringent rules.

Even if your planning consists of "Tonight Don't wear anything complicated and leave the backdoor unlocked"

If your guy rolls over in the morning and decides to have his way with you nd you don't want it.. it IS rape.. regardless of what your fantasies might be. he is actually forcing an unwanted encounter.. not playing a game where you are in on the fun.

ChiTownHoney · 07-22-2008, 01:34 AM

huh. Never thought of it that way.

Thats what I didnt like when my boyfriend did that. Never thought about it as rape though. He just did it. Never thought it could be considered rape.

I dont consider it rape because after awhile I just stopped fighting and let him.

dashrendar44 · 07-22-2008, 01:39 AM

wow...guess your a rape victim huh...:/

Ragman · 07-22-2008, 01:40 AM

I would still call it rape, And abuse. A woman always has a right to say no weather you are on your first date or its your 50th wedding anniversary. and a man who disregards that is raping her. At least.. as far as i am concerned.. other opinions may differ

ChiTownHoney · 07-22-2008, 01:46 AM

Well, I guess theres a line...I am confused now.

I dont consider myself a victim at all, I dont feel like I was every raped because it was different. I said no no no but after awhile, I was like whatever and laid there and let him get off. I think I fell asleep once while he was doing it. He use to get mad sometimes but what the fuck, I'm sleeping! You should leave me the fuck alone then.

thank God I'm not with him anymore.

Ragman · 07-22-2008, 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTownHoney

Well, I guess theres a line...I am confused now.

I dont consider myself a victim at all, I dont feel like I was every raped because it was different. I said no no no but after awhile, I was like whatever and laid there and let him get off. I think I fell asleep once while he was doing it. He use to get mad sometimes but what the fuck, I'm sleeping! You should leave me the fuck alone then.

thank God I'm not with him anymore.

thats right.. fight the power hot stuff

I guess its a personal thing. From what you have said here I would classify you as a victim. i would never hazard a guess as to the status of the relationship But I know some abusers are skilled at making their victims think differently about their attacks.

I am still sorry for you but.. i wont dwell if you wont

ChiTownHoney · 07-22-2008, 01:55 AM

nah its ok. I havent even thought about it like that. I really dont feel like it was. I always thought that was normal, but ouch, maybe its not!

I'm ok with it. And I use to want him to be rougher, haha!

Ragman · 07-22-2008, 01:56 AM

as long as he let you sleep?

JohnnyReb · 07-22-2008, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTownHoney

Thank you very much Ragman!

I think there are plenty of people who would rather sleep than have sex. I dont think I am the only one.

Your body needs sleep, or else you will die.

Yes, of course your body needs sleep. But there's a good deal of research that says that an excessive amount of sleep is as unhealthy as too little sleep.

To go back to the original subject. A man having sex with you, when you don't want it and you are telling him that you don't, is rape. The fact that you have rape fantasies is irrelevant.

07-21-2008, 11:42 PM	#1
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	rape fetish entitlement. I was just thinking this morning, I dont know if I would really like for my partner to be into the rape thing. I was just thinking that I love sleep way more than sex, and when I was with my boyfriend it pissed me off when he would try to wake me up for sex or when it was too early in the morning. What if my man was into rape stuff and wanted sex when I wanted to sleep and would just take it when I didnt want to, that would get so annoying! And he would think he was entitled to it just because he knows I like it, I know if I were a man I would think that way. i dont know anymore if I would want a guy into the same thing now. What does everyone think?

07-21-2008, 11:49 PM	#2
Renegade Banned Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 218 Reputation: 3800	As a rule, I generally don't find sleeping women very attractive. I know the idea - the vision - of a sleeping woman is sexy. But the truth of the matter is 9 out of 10 of you snore like a barnyard animal and if you look REAL close chances are good of finding a small stream of drool coming out the side of your mouth. On those RARE moments you were lying there like Sleeping Beauty on roofies -then I might pounce. See these things have a way of balancing themselves out. Last edited by Renegade; 07-21-2008 at 11:51 PM.

07-21-2008, 11:59 PM	#3
Ragman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: an alley near you Posts: 2,226 Reputation: 5535	For me rape play is far more fun if A) the woman is enjoying it as well and B)She is awake and alert. Just rolling over and forcing my woman when she was barley awake would be a huge turn off. Once again Chitown we are talking that fine line between fantasy and reality. If he knows your into rough stuff and he uses it as an excuse to just have his way whenever he feels like it.. thats different than having someone who is into rape fantasy, something the both of you can engage in consentually and both enjoy __________________ "Aww He's just a silly, dirty little man. What's to be afraid of ?" 2

07-22-2008, 12:54 AM	#4
JohnnyReb Banned Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 238 Reputation: 298	I never have understood people who say they love sleep. I don't think I've ever before heard someone say that they "love sleep way more than sex." To quote Uncle Ben, "There will be sleeping enough in the grave." Last edited by JohnnyReb; 07-22-2008 at 12:56 AM.

07-22-2008, 01:14 AM	#7
Ragman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: an alley near you Posts: 2,226 Reputation: 5535	I happen to enjoy sleep... or perhaps a better thing to say woudl be. I enjoy rest, and sleep is the ultimate form of rest. Very few things are better to me than laying in a comfortable bed, or on a comfortable couch, closing my eyes and jsut.. letting my body stop, no more having to work, no more even "having" to play.. just getting to stop.. and recoup its a very rewarding thing when your body has earned it __________________ "Aww He's just a silly, dirty little man. What's to be afraid of ?" 2

07-22-2008, 12:58 AM	#5
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	Well then why dont you call me a freak then. You have nothing ever to contribute to my ideas and nothing nice to say ever.

07-22-2008, 01:16 AM	#8
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	Thank you very much Ragman! I think there are plenty of people who would rather sleep than have sex. I dont think I am the only one. Your body needs sleep, or else you will die.

07-22-2008, 01:18 AM	#9
Ragman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: an alley near you Posts: 2,226 Reputation: 5535	there are definitley times when sleep is prefferable.. I can think of several times in my life where sex was mediocre or bad.. at those times I would have much preffered to be asleep. the opposite is of course also true. there are times when sex is spectacular and I don't care how tired I am __________________ "Aww He's just a silly, dirty little man. What's to be afraid of ?" 2

07-22-2008, 01:20 AM	#10
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	spectacular sex is a myth I think getting back to topic...I always thought that it was how it goes. If you are both into the rape thing, he can take it pretty much anytime he wants right?

07-22-2008, 01:21 AM	#11
too busy 91 Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 5 Reputation: 26	i love my sleep. sleep till 9am usually... but if i knew i could roll over and nail my wife at any time. i would hit it ever time that i got up to get a drink of water screw sleep. you just need to find someone that will understand that your sleep is important and back off. any time your awake though Game On

07-22-2008, 01:34 AM	#13
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	huh. Never thought of it that way. Thats what I didnt like when my boyfriend did that. Never thought about it as rape though. He just did it. Never thought it could be considered rape. I dont consider it rape because after awhile I just stopped fighting and let him. Last edited by ChiTownHoney; 07-22-2008 at 01:37 AM.

07-22-2008, 01:39 AM	#14
dashrendar44 Kamina Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Deep In The African Jungles Of China Posts: 2,733 Reputation: 12819	wow...guess your a rape victim huh...:/ __________________ "Go beyond the impossible and kick reason to the curb!" ~ Kamina, Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann "I've been thinking with my gut since I was 14, and I've come to the conclusion that my guts have shit for brains." ~ Rob Gordon, High Fidelity "All men are potential rapists. ALL MEN. Even the pope!" ~ Shirley Valentine "When you're pushed, killing's as easy as breathing." ~ John Rambo, Rambo IV "I don't think I'm easy to talk about. I've got a very irregular head. And I'm not anything that you think I am anyway." ~ Syd Barrett, Rolling Stone, December 1971

07-22-2008, 01:40 AM	#15
Ragman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: an alley near you Posts: 2,226 Reputation: 5535	I would still call it rape, And abuse. A woman always has a right to say no weather you are on your first date or its your 50th wedding anniversary. and a man who disregards that is raping her. At least.. as far as i am concerned.. other opinions may differ __________________ "Aww He's just a silly, dirty little man. What's to be afraid of ?" 2

07-22-2008, 01:46 AM	#16
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	Well, I guess theres a line...I am confused now. I dont consider myself a victim at all, I dont feel like I was every raped because it was different. I said no no no but after awhile, I was like whatever and laid there and let him get off. I think I fell asleep once while he was doing it. He use to get mad sometimes but what the fuck, I'm sleeping! You should leave me the fuck alone then. thank God I'm not with him anymore.

07-22-2008, 01:55 AM	#18
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	nah its ok. I havent even thought about it like that. I really dont feel like it was. I always thought that was normal, but ouch, maybe its not! I'm ok with it. And I use to want him to be rougher, haha!

07-22-2008, 01:56 AM	#19
Ragman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: an alley near you Posts: 2,226 Reputation: 5535	as long as he let you sleep? __________________ "Aww He's just a silly, dirty little man. What's to be afraid of ?" 2