"i am into fantasy only thanks" - Page 3 - Rape Board

ego · 02-08-2008, 11:48 AM

Ah, the difficulty that makes it interesting is Stern herself, not her door!
And i was thinking altruistic, i wouldnt like my gropping cost her a new door.

Jasmine · 02-10-2008, 01:25 AM

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Originally Posted by lucy

I don't want to offend hurt or annoy anyone but doesn't anyone feel like they actually want to be attacked.. for real? i go through stages of putting myself in vulnerable positions so i am taken advantage of all the time...

I don't know if you were a victim of abuse and/or rape, but after working 6 years with adult survivors of abuse I know that putting oneself as well as any children in vulnerable positions is not that uncommon.

You are putting yourself in mortal danger when you engage in this self-destructive behavior. Dead is not one of your fantasies I don't think.

I would suggest that you get professional help preferably by someone who specializes in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. You might want to check out an MSW if you are in the US. They work with a lot of PTSD clients and have a good track record.

Sierra · 02-10-2008, 11:39 AM

I couldn't agree more.

Sierra · 02-10-2008, 12:03 PM

ego · 02-10-2008, 12:05 PM

Well, she's good in "paid" answers....

02-10-2008, 03:48 PM

Ladies don't turn my thread into a DAMN battle ground, its not often i ask questions, usually they are unique and i don't appreciate anyone turning them into a bloody mud slinging match.

Sternenlied · 02-10-2008, 04:33 PM

You're right of course.
My apologies!
Post deleted.

02-13-2008, 06:18 AM

What a mess this thread turned into.

Even so, I think it's a great question, clan_hunter..... thanks!

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Originally Posted by clan_hunter

Thought i would bring this question over to here to share..Like i said i had never come across a member that felt this way before so i am now wondering if there are lots of people out there that also feel that fantasy is fantasy only and that they will not even consider basic experimenting and keep there fantasy in there heads?

I had very serious and very dark rape fantasies starting from the young age of ten years old. I came to terms with many things right from the start.. mainly that most other little girls my age didn't feel the same way (as far as I could tell)... and for that matter, neither did the little boys I knew. (Such a bummer!) Also, that there was a big difference between fantasy and reality. I knew I wasn't self-destructive and (thankfully) I knew I wasn't demented for having these desires.

Throughout my 20s and 30s, I indulged myself in such fantasies only in private. I never dared tell any of my friends, lovers, one-night-stands, or either of two husbands what I truly longed for because it's way too easy for a man to exploit this predilection against our wishes. How many guys would honestly take note of some sweet young lady confiding that she has serious rape fantasies without thinking...., "oh, really?" The temptation for even a vanilla guy to use this advantage he would then have is very great -- and for a woman to guess wrong when it comes to trustworthiness is dangerous as hell.

I remember a VERY close friend and somewhat casual sex partner ask what my all-time favorite sexual fantasy was. I came so close to telling him the whole truth even though I knew he would have been shocked. But did I? Oh hell no. Given the chance.. I balked. I laughed it off by saying my greatest sexual fantasy involves a "harem" of old, black men. THAT was the first thing I could think of that: (1) most importantly, didn't include him as a possibility (a single white guy), (2) that didn't center around me being forced, dominated, or used.... which is what I have always fantasized about, and (3) was off-the-wall enough that he'd know I was kidding.

It wasn't until much later that I dared explore this with anyone in a personal relationship.

02-08-2008, 11:48 AM	#41
ego the obscure Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,457 Reputation: 14892	Ah, the difficulty that makes it interesting is Stern herself, not her door! And i was thinking altruistic, i wouldnt like my gropping cost her a new door. __________________ ..lure them all into the abyss!

02-10-2008, 11:39 AM	#43
Sierra Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,625 Reputation: 129196	I couldn't agree more. __________________ Although the most incisive judges of the witches and even the witches themselves were convinced of the guilt of witchcraft, this guilt nevertheless did not exist. Thus it is with all guilt.

02-10-2008, 12:03 PM	#44
Sierra Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,625 Reputation: 129196	__________________ Although the most incisive judges of the witches and even the witches themselves were convinced of the guilt of witchcraft, this guilt nevertheless did not exist. Thus it is with all guilt.

02-10-2008, 12:05 PM	#45
ego the obscure Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,457 Reputation: 14892	Well, she's good in "paid" answers.... __________________ ..lure them all into the abyss!

02-10-2008, 03:48 PM	#46
clan_hunter Guest Posts: n/a	Ladies don't turn my thread into a DAMN battle ground, its not often i ask questions, usually they are unique and i don't appreciate anyone turning them into a bloody mud slinging match. Last edited by clan_hunter; 02-10-2008 at 03:50 PM.

02-10-2008, 04:33 PM	#47
Sternenlied Unknown Entity Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Niflheim Posts: 2,427 Reputation: 77819	You're right of course. My apologies! Post deleted. __________________ The Life and Death of Sam Crow - How the Sons of Anarchy lost their way