One thing that these stories show is that the reactions of others to the "events" can be the deciding factor as to how traumatic they are....especially in the juvenile cases.
Reacting like it's the most horrible thing in the world tells the victim they should feel horrible...perhaps more horrible than they actually feel, and they may proceed to feel bad about not feelnig bad enough.
"hush hush" actions tend to make the victim feel as though the experience is damaging to others.
Disbeleif or interrogation to "uncover the real truth" can make the victim feel like their integrity is questioned...asking them repeatedly if they "wanted it" can of course lead to them questioning their motives.
"I'll kill them" type responses may make the victim feel as thoughh they are causing trouble for others, perhaps endangering them.
The important thing with all "victims" we encounter is to be careful not to tell anyone how they "should" feel.
Keep a level head, be rational, show some genuine emotion but keep it below a boil. Remember that no-one "should" ever feel a certain way about something so personal.
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