[insearchof33333]

Shy, Bars are not the place to meet people and that 10 seconds of complete vulnerability as you ask a girl to accept or reject you? can be hell on earth. I have always found that it is better to get involved in some social group - a ski club, a church group, hell, an environmental clean up group, and get to know the people over time (as they get to know you.) Too many people make superficial decisions based on looks (or lack of confidence) and could be missing the love of their life. Go in with no expectations like you would with any person. It doesn't have to be thumbs up or thumbs down.. Just like you would make friends with anyone else, do the same in all situations. Get to know them, Get them to know you. And friendship will form. Now if its just sex you are looking for instead of a relationship? then that is a different conversation. Good luck to you all the same, I have been there where you are and done that. I found the other way I suggested works better.