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I can see, too, how this is risky for men. I know women can be fickle and we make it hard on guys, sometimes. It's like we expect you to know without accurately and thoroughly explaining what it is we want, or you get mixed signals. I feel sorry for guys who honestly get caught up in some mess they truly did not ask for. And I'm not talking strictly about fantasies, it can be anything. Guys have to protect themselves as well from the mental cases out there.

My wife knows. We've roleplayed and she's into it, but then again, we used to be active in the local BDSM scene until the babies started arriving, so she's pretty much a "I'll try anything once" type. And she has had sex with other women before, experimentally, so she can understand the dynamics of power play from either side.

But aside from Mrs. Kink, I've not told anyone my fantasies using my real name, just online and anonymous. It's one of those things that can boomerang. "Officer, he was talking about hogtying his lady boss and sodomizing her with a Roto-Rooter just before (SCENE MISSING) ... I'm concerned, officer."

I've told strippers and rub and tug girls. When role playing with them I was reluctant at first, I started with terms like slavegirl, had them tell me how much they like being my slave, to much they like being my property, to getting them calling themselves my slut/whore, light spankings, to rape fantasies, to adult incest fantasies, drinking my pee, her fucking horses (all role playing). I've had any freak outs, and I've shared this fantasy with alot of strippers and MPAs (Message Parlour Attendants for those of you who aren't hobbyists, which btw is the term many johns perfer to call themselves). I shared rape fantasies with at least at least 7 strippers, and I shared it with at least 7 MPAs. Slavegirl fantasies I've shared with even more women. Its nice to have place to go where you can be yourself. And wow where all of them hot too, many with big tits. Fun times.

Advise dip your toes in first, see how comfortable with dirty talk they are and warn them.that taboo topics may come up so it won't be a shock to the system.

All that. I had one girlfriend years ago who I partly confided in, and even at that I just said I liked to dominate/have a compliant sex partner. I never mentioned the "R" word, but she just knew what it was I wanted. She was great and played along and we had great sex for the few months we were together.
I had to move to another State to work for about six months and that girl got pissed off waiting. Never seen her again and still I worry if my secret is safe with her.

Sadly, no one.

I'm desperate to meet someone online who shares my tastes so that I can chat about such fantasies, but I can't find anyone.

I'm not interested in chatting to women about this, but other men who have this fantasy, so we can chat and wank about what we would do with celebs and other women.

It's sad that most men on masturbation sights are all "holier than thou", and criticise me for my fantasies.

I have never talk to any one about my feelings of it. NOt of course to my family or to my friends. I do not think that they can understand me. They will just believe that my mind is too crazy or I am so bad.
I dream of having some person who can hear me. I do think if i can talk to someone about it I can stop it from being in my mind so much.

I have shared my desires with very few people. Guys tell me how I’ll end up in jail just talking about because some bitch will hear and claim I raped them. When I get around to trusting a girl enough to most break up right then. It is something I want to discuss but I can’t afford a therapist so I’m stuck reading stories and talking on the net.

Usually on here. Oh and I'm back everyone! Sorry for being gone so long.

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True but if you'rea GUY and talk about it you're not just a freak you are a danger.

That 100% riskier for a guy, at worse people view the female submissive as a victim, you face some public humiliation and being dumped at worst, even if its your fantasy, but as a dominate male, admitting to the wrong person means if they tell other people, peope will look at me like I'm a sex predator, I could face assault or death from White Knights, police harrassment false accusations from soon attention seeking lunatic, job loss extra, so while its bad for you its actually dangerous to my health and survival if anyone found out about my fantasies.

I don't wish to minimize the consquences for women that fantasy about being raped if that goes public, its just that I think its important for you to concider the huge danger being exposed is for a guy.

That being said I've shared the fantasies with strippers and MPAs and had a blast roleplaying with them. I'm shocked at how many sex workers are completely okay with this fantasy and even seem to get into it. It might help that I'm not scary looking, I look more like a cross between a hobbit and an Shrek.

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I guess I got lucky in a way. It was nothing more then a chance meeting. i was on vacation half way across the country. Walking along the beach I met a couple of girls camping and having a good time. They invited me to join them. We talked about this and that for awhile, but somehow the conversation shifted to sexual fantasies. Surprise, surprise, it was the girls who started that topic. Anyway, I joined in and told them of some of my fantasies. The three of us eventually over time became friends, but sadly, I haven't done anything with either of them, other then share fantasies.

Your a bit too nice, I mean having you sleep on the floor while she takes that bed because she had a bad dream sends the message to some women that they can treat you like a door mat. You sound like a nice person and deserve better then that.

That sums me up too. I never told anyone about my fantasies, way too much to lose.

I've only talked to people on rape websites. I'd rather not tell someone that I know or someone who is not into rape fantasies.

I've discussed it with a couple of partners. You have to feel them out about it. In early days it was all straight sex. As I got more experience, I've had women bring it up to me, they just leave a book in the bedroom, for example. I have a dark look, most women can tell pretty quick I'm a pervert... I don't usually attract clean cut types unless they have a dark secret. I left a relationship with someone who wasn't into it at all. That wasn't the only reason for leaving but it's one indicator of a mis match. I'm back on here looking for a nice girl who wants to play dirty. I've met two on here before. Chat and phone are a good place to start. There's nothing like the satisfaction of living out one of your sexual fantasies, and if it's a mutual interest, happy days. You have to have that if the relationship is gonna work long term, unless you can get it on the side...

Hello All, i love to chat here about most anything, not into beast,scat. My email is lockcall01@yahoo.com
i have had a little success here.

Wow, I thought sex workers would be extra paranoid about a guy speaking about rape fantasies.

I have been very lucky to have found 2 significant others that share the interest.

I told my wife cuz she said she was open to everything and she seemed at first but big mistake... uses it against me all the time